Am I unreasonable?

[Thatsmyname5]

My partner and I have 5 children between us (2 from my first marriage, 1 from his first marriage and 2 children together). The youngest is 4 months old.
I’m concerned that my partner doesn’t know when to stop drinking. Even when I was 7/8 months pregnant, he would get drunk with his friends on a weekly basis - one night he didn’t come home at all, other nights he was so drunk he couldn’t string 2 words together and came home 4 or 5 o’clock in the morning.
Now that the beer gardens are open again (we live in Scotland) I’m getting concerned that he’s slipping back into his old ways.
He went out for what was supposed to be a few drinks in the beer garden with his granny and other close relatives. He ended up drinking at his friends house and I highly doubt there were any social distancing practices, good hygiene etc. Even on the first day that beer gardens were open, he was straight on it and came home drunk in the middle of the day when the children were home. He claims he had 3 pints but I think it was more than that.

My question is this - am I being unreasonable to be fuming at him? I feel that this is purely irresponsible and risky behaviour. What’s more, he he is putting drink ahead of our children’s health and wellbeing.
How do I tell him without being the ‘killjoy wife’ that he has to stop doing that! Numbers have remained low where I live but that’s not the point, I feel he is putting us all at unnecessary risk.
I was able to see my own parents again while taking precautions as my dad has cancer. I was supposed to meet up with my mum today but she feels unsafe knowing that my partner has been so irresponsible and has cancelled on me. I don’t blame her for that at all.

You aren’t being unreasonable in wanting him not to do this and to tell him so. That’s not at all being a ‘killjoy wife’.

If he’s got a problem with drinking though then there’s not much you can do about how he chooses to behave. The Relationships board on here can be more supportive for situations like this.

You are not being unreasonable and his drinking does sound problematic, pandemic or not. Look after yourself and the kids, look for support groups like al-anon uk - unless he decides to change there's nothing you can do to change him.

The issue isn't coronavirus, it's that you've married an alcoholic and now want him not to be. If you don't like it then you need to be clear with him when he's sober that his drinking is an issue for you and that you want him to get help for it. Be clear in your own mind what you want to happen if he refuses.

You're not being unreasonable at all. Even without Covid getting that drunk in the middle of the day with kids around just isn't acceptable (and not being the positive role model they need). I would be angry too but the best thing would be to work out how you can really drill it into him and get him to stop. Sometimes shouting/anger/banning activity just makes it worse