Newborn and Stepdaughter

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Hi guys,

Would like to know your thoughts.
I have a 2 week old daughter, and my stepdaughter (9) has been visiting once a week in lockdown. We used to have her a lot more regularly.
She’s just about to return to all her clubs, swimming, ice skating etc. She also lives with her 2 younger sisters who will also be returning to their clubs.
The thought of having her visit and holding the baby when she’s back at her clubs makes me VERY nervous and I don’t know what to do.
Am I being silly or is it sensible to be cautious?

Thanks x

I get why you are worried but if you had your own older child what would you do?
Just ensure there is loads of hand washing, change her clothes etc. It's all you can do.

I totally get your concerns. I would be really worried to. However, your only options are to either be really careful (as PP advised above) or not see her.

I’m due in August. As it stands now my older children (one an older teen and one 6) are going nowhere and doing nothing because I’m pregnant - that will continue until my baby is older than 2 weeks and stronger - but that’s very easy to do when they are only in one home.

I’m your case I’d be really, really hot on hygiene when she visits.

I think you need to ask yourself if you'd feel the same if it were your biological daughter. What would you do in that situation?

All clubs are operating within specific guidelines at the moment which mean social distancing is adhered to. Talk to her mum....it will probably put your mind at ease. (My kids are only back at football (outside no contact) nothing else is restarting till September earliest.

If it were my own child I probably wouldn’t put her back in clubs until the baby was older. But I can’t expect her mum to do that just because of my baby.

Thanks everyone. I’ll just have to be super hot with the hygiene x

If it were my own child I probably wouldn’t put her back in clubs until the baby was older. But I can’t expect her mum to do that just because of my baby.
I agree with both these statements. Do you have a good relationship with her mum? What does her father think? It might help to be honest with them both about your worries - a trouble shared, etc!