DS staying overnight at new GF house

[thesurreyyouth]

She lives with parents, 1 recently off the shielded list, a sibling & the siblings young child. Didn’t come home last night as he stayed with GF. He says it’s fine, it’s allowed and quotes the ‘can stay overnight ’ but DH & I disagree as guidance still says stay 2m apart, don’t share car, etc. The parents clearly don’t have an issue with him staying & all his mates (according to DS) are out partying, staying at others houses like it’s all back to normal. Just wondered if it would bother anyone else?

Wouldn't bother me at all.

My dd has been staying with her bf since May, I don't think it was right for them to prevent those in established relationships to be separated anyway - it spoke of smug married types forgetting about the rest of us. I was able to move in with my dp but not everyone could. As long as he doesn't have a new gf each week I don't see the problem

Nothing to do with being smug just surprised that the parents aren’t more cautious, but it’s totally up to them. Him & his friends don’t believe there’s any risk from the virus any more, it’s all over. It’s not an established relationship, he says she’s not his girlfriend.

It would be a no from me.

Nope. It isn't allowed, and his gf hardly lives in her own.

Now he's stayed over you will be sharing what/who any of gfs family have been in contact with and visa versa. Because of prolonged contact inside house where any viral load will be higher. Neither are single parents in need of support nor was this 'his bubble as a family or two households' It was very selfish of him and she's not even his long term gf!!

Gfs family are silly if they have someone shielding even if recently off the list (it's bloody high criteria to be on it, so they'll still be vulnerable)

I'm shielding and nobody else is allowed inside my house except my DC. We disinfect everything. People are forgetting too quickly that it still kills or can damage your health long term.

Really, teenagers will find any excuse to bend rules even for their own safety because they think they won't catch it or won't die from it. Maybe they won't and will be asymptomatic, but their family member might...

Thanks for responses, it seems some think like me & DH and others see nothing wrong. I’m disappointed in his attitude as his sister has lung issues, but he sees that everyone around him is well & sees the daily figures are low so feels he no longer has to be careful.

It's tricky.
We've just said we think it is OK for DS's girlfriend to come over to watch a movie with him (so indoors) and accept that they won't be social distancing.
But they have been going out together for 14 months and so far have only seen each other outdoors.

We know her parents, and both our families have been very cautious within the guidelines so far.