Feeling a bit fed up

[Twospaniels]

My husband has asthma and he get bronchitis when he has a cold etc.
So although he’s not on the official vulnerable list, he is vulnerable. He has been hospitalised before.
He genuinely believes that if he gets Covid he will die.
So we have been at home now since mid March.
I’m a bit fed up TBH. I am working from home so that’s ok, we are having supermarket deliveries.
But friends have asked us to go on a UK break at the end of september and I really want to go, but he won’t entertain it.
Also I haven’t seen my parents since early March. They are elderly, my mum is disabled. My sister lives near them so is helping them out and they have carers, but my dad gets low and anxious and is really missing me. My mum can’t speak and so he is very lonely and scared.
I am starting to resent my husband for wanting us to stay home. That’s really selfish of me isn’t it? I don’t know how long he expects us to live like this. Well I do, he reckons we’re not going anywhere until we can get vaccinated. Who knows when that will be!
Sorry to rant on. I know I’m being selfish, he is really scared and I wouldn’t want to lose him.

No you are not being selfish at all, you have stayed in for months for your husband.

Current infection rates are very low, the chance of your meeting someone who is infectious is very tiny. Do you drive or would you need to go on public transport to see your parents?

If you can go by car, agree to go, see them, come back, take all your clothes off at the front door, have a shower and put clean clothes on. You should be able to visit your parents, and whilst his concerns are understandable he is being incredibly unfair to be putting you in this position.

Can You bubble with your parents as they are isolating too?

Need to be objective about the risks

What is the normal chance that he will die of a road accident in a year? Or from septicaemia? Of a bad asthma attack?

When the virus is at very low levels like it is now, then the chances of catching it , never mind dying from it, can be much less than the chances of all the other bad things that could happen.

Bet he has the odd drink, perhaps he eats too much red meat or does very little exercise? He is always doing things that put him at risk, he just knows the risk is small.