Planning a baby?

[Cusano34]

In January, me and DH decided we were ready to try for another baby as DS is two now and we felt we were mentally and financially ready to try again.

But since this whole thing started, I’m so unsure if I want to bring a baby into this world. Husband doesn’t feel the same at all as he thinks everything will go back to normal soon and that it’s all blown out of proportion etc etc

Has anyone else put off trying at the moment? Just wondered if anyone else was in this situation. I know appointments will be different with more over the phone and husband not being able to come to appointments. Also the usual support from family being harder with social distancing in place etc I’m so torn 😫

It’s a hard one. My husband and I made the same decision to wait back in February (we’d been trying for a month or so) but in the end that month I’d already caught and got a positive test result a few weeks later.

I was extremely anxious in the early months as so little was known about the virus. Since then and as more research has been published I’ve felt more and more reassured. Not everything is known and nothing is guaranteed but overall pregnancy doesn’t seem particularly more risky even if you do contract Covid.

I’m personally glad we didn’t wait but that’s mainly because I don’t have time on my side given my age. This is also my second pregnancy and although nothing is guaranteed I feel more confident about being pregnant and what to look out for etc to monitor things a bit more independently. There are also differences to antenatal care (attending scans alone and a couple of midwife appts now over the phone rather than face to face) which I would have found harder during my first pregnancy. As you said though this would be your second so you might feel similarly.

Having said all that though I’m due in late autumn and who knows how things will stand by then. But then again I’m not prepared to stand by and risk declining fertility by waiting for a vaccine.

Life goes on!

We were going to start trying in March, didn't because of what was happening, got a bit careless by June and now I'm 8 weeks pregnant... It was a bit of a shock because my first took a long time of trying, but a very happy one. As the pp said, I feel a lot less upset about things like going to scans alone than I would have with DS (that was a pregnancy after multiple miscarriages). I don't know what the world will look like in February when this one would be due, all being well (obviously it's still very early for me) but then you never know what the world will look like in 9 months, or 10 years, or 50 years when you try for a baby - it's always a bit of a leap of faith.

Decided last month to have our second. DC 13 months and similarly felt financially and mentally ready to ride the rollercoaster again.

Due in March. There's so many things that could change between now and next year, but Covid doesnt really bother us. Yea some things will be a little different and harder perhaps like scans/family visits but it's not like it's always a breeze anyway.

Life can always change 9months down the line...let's face it 9 months ago who thought we would be here.