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Are you sending your child to nursery?

56 replies

30secondsoflove · 04/07/2020 14:19

Im thinking of sending dd as she misses it terribly. She's such a social butterfly and I think she feels suppressed. I am not a key worker.

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Ihaveoflate · 04/07/2020 20:17

Yes, she went back last week and loved it. We were worried about settling her in again (she’s just about to turn 1 y) but she didn’t even look back!

eggontoast2 · 04/07/2020 20:18

@123456kent
I want DS1 to go back for all those reasons too. He's bored out of his mind and although my parents help out I really feel he needs to go back. We think we all had Covid-19 back in April but we don't know for sure. I think we will send him back next week. It's a massive risk but we can't stay indoors forever. I've been self isolating since the beginning of March and now starting to struggle.
Thanks for your reply. Good to hear someone else's point of view.

eggontoast2 · 04/07/2020 20:18

@123456kent
I want DS1 to go back for all those reasons too. He's bored out of his mind and although my parents help out I really feel he needs to go back. We think we all had Covid-19 back in April but we don't know for sure. I think we will send him back next week. It's a massive risk but we can't stay indoors forever. I've been self isolating since the beginning of March and now starting to struggle.
Thanks for your reply. Good to hear someone else's point of view.

eggontoast2 · 04/07/2020 20:19

Don't know why that posted twice!

123456kent · 04/07/2020 20:21

@eggontoast2 i dont think you should view it as a massive risk, it’s a possible risk, but there’s risk in everything we do. Good luck

Catastrofuck · 04/07/2020 20:28

eggontoast2 I really wouldn’t see this as a massive risk either. Perhaps I’m already in a different mindset as my husband is working in school again

happymummy12345 · 04/07/2020 21:07

My sons nursery opens from next week. He will be going. He goes 2 mornings a week. He's asking to go back, he's really missed it, his behaviour hasn't been great because he's upset about not being at nursery for so long. Also he starts school in September and has delays in some areas of development so it will be good for him to go back.
I feel awful for doing it but I believe it's the right decision for him.

Lissy23 · 04/07/2020 21:09

Yes, my DS will be going one day a week in September when he’s almost 2.

addictedtotheflats · 04/07/2020 21:13

Yes went back 1st June

Davodia · 04/07/2020 21:14

No. I had to withdraw mine from nursery because we couldn’t afford to keep paying for his place when he couldn’t attend. They’ve asked if he wants to restart in September but I’ve said no. There’s going to be a second wave and we’ll just end up in the same situation, having to pay even though he can’t attend. He won’t be going back as long as there’s still a risk that I might have to fork out to a closed nursery.

whatswithtodaytoday · 04/07/2020 21:15

We've been being extremely careful but our 16 month old is going back in a week. We've been really struggling with working from home while looking after him, and he's getting very bored with being stuck in two rooms while we work. His behaviour is so much better on days we're free to play with him and take him out.

I am worried but the nursery are fantastic and I trust them to do their best. He only went for about 6 weeks before lockdown so won't remember anything, but he seemed to enjoy it so hopefully will settle ok.

isitfridayyet1 · 04/07/2020 21:16

No as my husband is still on furlough, so it would be a waste of money as we have two until 4.

whatswithtodaytoday · 04/07/2020 21:17

@mrsed1987 Howwwwww are you managing to WFH successfully with a 17 month old?!

U8myufo · 04/07/2020 23:04

Yes mine is doing two days a week. That's all the nursery are offering at the moment. She's loving being back.

ILoveTeeeeeea · 05/07/2020 00:57

Yes my 3 yr old went back this wk for 2.5 days. Yesterday (one of her days off) she was demanding I take her back in by 7am...she was so pleased to be back with her little friends, my eyes welled up when she reunited with her key worker.

Just 2.5 days after being back, my OH and I have both agreed that she seems to have ‘grown up’ more.

On the other hand, my OH and I (not working currently) didn’t know what to do with our spare time :)

Pleco28 · 05/07/2020 01:04

1 million percent a bad idea!!!!! I sent my 5 year old to school on Thursday for the first time . He was in for an hour and I got a phone call he had a fall and had hit his nose and could I pick him up . He had a heavy nosebleed and all they did was protect themselves and handed him tissues ! A five year old ! Didn't plug it or try stop it or anything . This resulted in a ten minute heavy bleed , he was extremely distresssd and wouldn't talk about what happened until 10.30 that night . My child was not protected . He was not safe . They protected themselves with gloves and masks and didn't help him

BadAlice · 05/07/2020 07:21

@Pleco28

1 million percent a bad idea!!!!! I sent my 5 year old to school on Thursday for the first time . He was in for an hour and I got a phone call he had a fall and had hit his nose and could I pick him up . He had a heavy nosebleed and all they did was protect themselves and handed him tissues ! A five year old ! Didn't plug it or try stop it or anything . This resulted in a ten minute heavy bleed , he was extremely distresssd and wouldn't talk about what happened until 10.30 that night . My child was not protected . He was not safe . They protected themselves with gloves and masks and didn't help him
I’ve never known school staff to do anything more than hand a child tissues and tell them to lean forward and pinch their own nose. What exactly were you expecting? This isn’t Covid-related.
Choice4567 · 05/07/2020 07:24

@Pleco28 also nursery is different to school. They’re allowed to pick them up and help them. Otherwise no nappies would get changed!

mrsed1987 · 05/07/2020 08:27

@whatswithtoday

With great difficulty. I have actually just left to start a self employed role however, I was starting work at 7am and finishing at 4pm, managing about 5 to 6 hours in that time. My husband and I were syncing diaries so one of us was free when the other was on a conference call. And I was doing the hours I owed on a Friday when I'm not meant to work.

It was incredibly hard but I was meant to leave on 3rd April and they kept me on as my new role is self employed and nothing was taking place, so really I should be grateful.

insancerre · 05/07/2020 13:38

@Pleco28
That’s standard first aid
I would have done exactly the same thing in my nursery pre-covid
We don’t plug noses
And the first thing we do is to put gloves on, to protect ourselves from bodily fluids, that’s always been the case

AnnaSW1 · 05/07/2020 13:45

Yes. She missed social interaction with her little friends. He's so much happier.

AnnaSW1 · 05/07/2020 13:45

*she

BillyAndTheSillies · 05/07/2020 13:48

Yes, DS1 has been back since mid June and absolutely loving it. He starts school in September so we'd wanted him to get used to other children again.
He'd missed his friends so much and he's a lot happier for it.

MaryShelley1818 · 05/07/2020 16:42

@Namesgonenow

Why wouldn’t you?
Obviously I can only speak for myself but can you genuinely not think of any reasons at all why people might choose not to?

We have chosen not to so far for the following reasons:
We're both wfh and genuinely have not found this difficult with DS age 2.5.
Our income has reduced over the past few mths and it's not cost effective to pay for nursery when we don't need to as we're home and he's happy.
My parents are shielding and I wanted DS to have the chance to spend time with them first before mixing closely with others. I won't let him do both atm to protect them and he has really missed his Grandparents terribly.
I recognise that nursery is valuable and the risk to HIM is low but he will go back soon and I don't think an extra couple of months off will make much difference.

Namesgonenow · 05/07/2020 19:51

Your reasons are specific to your family circumstances and in this case you wouldn’t have posted to collect opinions as you don’t have doubts about it. The OP did not make such a post. Her post as I read it was a generic should I send my kid to a nursery amidst a pandemic type of post and The vast majority of posters have shared views that it’s perfectly sensible and reasonable to send kids in - why not? Hence my comment. Your specific personal situation is specific to you and hence as I say you possibly would not word your post the way the OP has and you wouldn’t get the sort of responses the OP has.