Having one of those off days, anyone else get them?

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I decided from the start to try and stay positive and see the restrictions as a case of what I can do, not what I can't.

However, hhaving one of those days when I feel I can't do this. I went to town yesterday, positives I bought a nice top I'm really pleased with and also had a latte and yummy chocolate brownie takeaway and sat on a bench in a tree lined street.

However, before that I met my Mum in town yesterday as she's elderly and I wanted her to have a feel what it's like as she starts to venture out on her own. Came armed with her mask which she kept taking off, folding up, putting away, putting back on. She seems to have no idea of distancing. Tried to have a gentle word with her about hygiene, distancing, she just didn't get it. I suggested getting a takeaway and she told me she didn't want to do that with everyone around and won't be going into cafes either in the future due to cross contamination (I suggested using a disinfectant wipe on surfaces, she said no).

I know I'll be ok tomorrow, but depressing seeing my Mum not looking after herself in some ways, and obviously from now on there won't be the occasional treat together. After I saw Mum, I the shop I really needed to go in had a massive queue, so gave up on that as I really needed to get home. Going into work soon, my lovely job isn't there for the foreseeable, they've kept the group of us on as cleaners - good I have a job, I know, but I'd love my old job back. Just one of those 24 hour periods when I end up taking a deep breath over how things are.

Anyone else? Any particular reason>

I hear you! Sorry to hear you are having a bad day. I am also trying to stay upbeat, take the positives out of the situation and be grateful for what I can. But some days everything just feels so bleak and frustrating. I am focusing on the fact that the feeling does tend to pass, so it’s just a case of riding it out. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day, the only thing we can really do is take things day by day at the moment

We call it the Corona coaster, I'm not a great fan of unrelenting positivity - so when I'm low I have a cry, go for a walk, do some planting, kids and husband still do hugs so I make best use of those.

There is a lot of loss, a better person than me could articulate it, but at times I find it overwhelming and futile - but it won't be forever, the feeling passes and you crack on.

I'm sorry to hear about your job, it must feel like another anchor gone.

Yes, I have them. I always have good days too, though. So when I’m having a bad day, I sort of mentally hunker down, try to be kind to myself by not expecting myself to do everything, but also try to do something which I know from experience will make me feel better.

YMMV, but my feel-good lists includes just going for a walk, sitting in the garden listening to birdsong, getting a take-away proper coffee and sitting in the market square and reading fiction.

Triggers vary - sometimes it’s a piece of news or a request to do something. Sometimes I can’t identify anything, I just feel bad. I try not to worry about whether I can identify a cause, concentrate on the steps I need to take to get through it.

Tomorrow is always another day. Hope you feel better soon, OP.

Yes, I'm having one of those weeks. I've been a bit tearful almost every day this week. Just can't seem to cheer myself up.

Today I decided to treat myself to a coffee from the Costa machine at the local co-op, but when I got there it was out of order. That was enough to make my cry when I got back home. Ridiculous really.

Yes
I feel ill (just had Covid test back after 17 days - negative)...still feel ill.
Grieving my mum who died suddenly 3 weeks ago. Had funeral on my own, cleared her flat on my own, dealt with all the phone calls and shit on my own, it's all done now and I feel absolutely awash with sadness.
Have just sent in paperwork for transition review for ds who is 9 and has complex needs. Feel panicky I have missed something.
Furious about school reopening plans.
Have spent nearly 16 weeks shielding ds...worry for my dds, who are being amazing, but are stuck in missing their friends, worried that I'm not doing a good enough job homeschooling him.
I miss my friends, I miss going out for coffee, I miss my mum.
I turned 51, 2 days ago and I look about 70.
That's about it I think.

@Bupkis wow. Keeping going is a massive feat under all the difficult things that are going on for you and your family.
Belated happy birthday. Don't worry about looking 71, face masks are in!

I’m one of those people who has overall benefitted mentally from lockdown. It’s done me good to have “time out”. I have been positive from day 1. And yet today it’s just all really got to me. No particular reason. I was wfh anyway but CV has really slowed down what I do. I am incredibly lucky to still have a job and getting paid. I appreciate that every day. But today was yet another day of no work to do and the day just felt so long and empty. I have lots of craft hobbies but even they can get monotonous when it’s all you do. I wanted to have a night off from drinking tonight (a little too much lockdown wine!) but it got to 4pm and I just couldn’t take it anymore! It probably doesn’t help that it’s been peeing down for days. I don’t like hot weather but spending time in the garden helps me a lot so being locked inside hasn’t helped. I’m just telling myself that this is a bad day and it will pass. But it is making me feel a lot of empathy for those people who have found every day hard. Those who have had to deal with so much. I don’t know what I would do if I felt like this every day.

All I can add is @Bupkis
You are so strong. How awful for you.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.