Are you following all the rules?

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Hi, just wondered if most of you are following the lockdown rules (if you can make head nor take of them!?).

We've been good, met with one friend socially distanced plus met with my parents outside 2M apart. My oldest is a stickler for rules, my youngest is desperate to meet with all her friends over. We've said when rules relax of course we can.

My youngest is really miffed as she says some of her other friends are having friends stay over and having get togethers (they posted it on their school chat with their teacher) so why do we have to be so strict?! The parents in question aren't in support bubbles.

It's none of my business what others do, I just hate seeing my little one upset.

I have been following all the rules from the time of lockdown until a couple of weeks ago, nothing dramatic, seeing family inside their homes. After this evenings news on Leicester I’m going back to the rules and sticking by them rigidly. I desperately want us all out of this nightmare.

I’m struggling to relax the rules even though I’m allowed. I’m a single parent so now allowed in a ‘support bubble’ with my parents so technically don’t have to socially distance from them at all but still wear a mask in their house and felt guilty after giving them a hug for the first time since March

I’ve been following the rules until today. First day of the holidays here in Scotland and weather was awful so ended up changing our play date from outside to inside our friend’s house. I was socially distant but the kids weren’t. Now feeling terrible 😞

Pretty much yes, saw friends / family in the garden at the point we were only supposed to meet at the park but risk exactly the same, if not less to see them in garden

Also DS and his GF came into the kitchen last week when it started raining , but we kept distance and the door open so not much of a risk .

When it became clear that my DCs weren't going to make it into school before September, I decided that any accessible playground was fair game.

I ended up on a friend's sofa a few weeks ago. It was pissing down with torentialrain, and I hit a really low ebb of random sobbing and needed some company. They're working from home.

I did my exercise in quiet rural fields early lockdown, and saw no practical difference in abstaining from walking with DH and the DCs later in the day compared to accompanying them. There were some nights we went on star gazing walks when the DCs couldn't sleep. There was no one around to infect my neighbourhood is near dead at night anyway.

Last week was the first time I saw DM (or any other relative) in 4.5 months. The only other friend I'd seen was on a walk when that was enabled. I'm a SAHM. I'm struggling to make arrangements for the DCs to meet people. DH is working from home. We've got nearly as much chance of spreading Covid 19 around as I have of farting out Ebola. My lapses have been very low risk and well worth the mental health benefits. Covid 19 is not the only hazard in the world.

@LoopyGremlin

I’ve been following the rules until today. First day of the holidays here in Scotland and weather was awful so ended up changing our play date from outside to inside our friend’s house. I was socially distant but the kids weren’t. Now feeling terrible 😞

Don't feel guilty. Children need normal interaction. 3+ months is long winded enough for adults and forever to children. Trying to enforce unnatural rules on children can be damaging to some. Let them play naturally.

Thanks @BogRollBOGOF
The only reason I feel bad is that I have been critical of others who haven’t been following the rules, which makes me a hypocrite!

@Fosler I have watched that guy too but his latest video is barking? Is he really saying there has been a coordinated global conspiracy to murder old people to save money? This government can’t coordinate anything effectively! Much more frightening believing that it’s all random chaos and everyone In charge / making decisions is pretty much guessing - which is what I think is much more likely!!

No , I've been sleeping with the neighbour for the last month. I have a 17 year old here so it would be within the rules now if it wasn't for my 25 year olds relationship breaking down and him staying with me then moving in with the neighbour (he has a spare room)

Also met up with a few people in his garden, his adult children and a couple of friends without much social distancing over the last few weeks. my eldest and his eldest have been working with the friends for the last 10 weeks though so it seems pointless me avoiding them all

It's fascinating. Back in March when the CMO & CSO we're talking about lockdown fatigue there were loads of posters on Mumsnet saying it was bollocks and we will stay home for as long as it takes, it's not much to ask of people to save lives. Where are these posters now?

As it happens I believed them on the lockdown fatigue so it does not surprise me so many people are now breaking the rules. They will have factored this in their modelling but let's hope they have the proportions right.

The 'doing it because of Cummings' brigade are just pathetic though.

Mostly.

I’ve let my child play with a friend though in the garden & I let her hug & play with her grandparents in the garden too. Adults always SD. We do ‘share’ food etc though. Ie. Have a bbq and use our plates/cutlery/glasses.. I’ve never taken my own nor asked anyone to bring their own. I’ve maintained social distancing on the whole although now I don’t stress about exactly how far apart in all honesty. I don’t believe it’s particularly easy to catch from walking past someone for a max of 3 seconds outside. Nor even inside a supermarket.
I choose to wear a mask to go shopping as I just like to think I’m doing my bit in protecting others ..
DD went back to nursery when they reopened. We are actually moving her to a new one next month as due to WFH, we need a nursery closer to home (at the mo, nursery is next door to work bloody miles away 😫).
From next week, we’ll be hot footing it down to my in-laws for a ‘holiday’. They live on the coast & I cannot wait to have some childcare agree 3/4 months of lockdown with a newborn & 3 year old! We won’t be socially distancing as it strikes me as utterly pointless if I’m staying with them for 10 days. If any of us have it, we’ll catch it from just being there. Surfaces, cups, being in the same room all day, sharing a bathroom.. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Pretty much. DH is still WFH, I'm furloughed, neither children are back at school. Still getting the vast majority of shopping delivered, visited one shop that wasn't an food shop. No hugging of anyone inc grandparents, haven't been in houses.

I've met a few friends individually, we aimed to stay at 2M distance but I find that trickier when you're walking along. DS's both seen friends, I've told them to be cautious, no rough play or getting too close. I obv can't be sure they're staying as far apart as 2M but as long as they aren't mauling their friends or going in doors I'm not too worried

Yes, but I am contemplating bubbling with my shielding DF and DM one day before shielding is paused. Rebel, me.

I've kind of lost track of what the rules are.

Still observing bubble with person who lives alone and meeting up with one other to socially distance.

We're following the rules. We're planning on seeing my DPs after 4th July and I can't decide on whether we really need to get the DDs to not hug them. If we've all been super strict, I can't see what the point is in not letting them hug.

I also don't really understand why so many people are posting photos of themselves not social distancing on social media. I genuinely have what I'd think of as carefully rule abiding friends, yet there are quite a few hugging each other. At the very least, I'd expect people to keep quiet about their rule breaking.

I have been for one walk around my area. Other than that I've stayed in. Have my shopping delivered. DH is working from home other than about 5-10 days a month and he has visited a few shops for essentials that couldn't be delivered. DD goes out to meet a couple of friends a few nights a week outside. My youngest 3 haven't been out at all.

Last week for the first time, my parents came and sat in my garden for a drink.

I have health anxiety though and I would love to do a bit more than this although within the rules.

We’ve completely followed the rules. Seen parents at a distance but that’s it so far. The lower we can get our rate of infection the faster we can get back to normal. What’s happening in Leicester right now shows what can easily happen. It’s driving me crazy that I feel like I’m now one of the few not bending or ignoring the rules. The more this spreads the longer it’ll go on for and the higher the death rate will be. I can’t wait to do all the things I’m missing and for my children to have play dates again.

Despite thinking the whole response is a complete bag of shit, yes I have.

Yes. In Scotland and really want to not hamper the progress made so far. Have a few risk factors in the house.

Actually we drove 12 miles to a beach last weekend. So that broke a rule now I think about it.

Kids have seen friends outdoors and kept 2m apart. They've adapted very well.

More or less.

I was very strict about it. Now, I'm following my instincts much more and doing what I think is right. Sometimes this means being stricter than the rules state, but there have been other times, for example when we met up with grandparents, there were 7 of us (when only 6 were allowed).

I haven't massively broken them, but I am now using my common sense to do what I think is right rather than doing everything by the letter.

@Whoknowswhocares “1 metre plus” - the plus bit is “with mitigations”.

So 2m is still the core guidance. If it’s impossible to stay 2m apart, you can go down to 1m but there must be something else in place to reduce transmission eg face mask, sitting back to back/side to side, Perspex screen - whatever suits the circumstances.

Good to know I'm not alone in strictly following the rules! Although I had to look up the current rules as I was confused!

I wouldn't mind but these same parents at my DDs school who have had the indoor get togethers and sleepovers are the same parents who aren't sending their children back to school as it's too dangerous.

I'm taking a risk sending mine back I know but as we're not really seeing anyone at the moment we can't pass it to anyone else.

We too are getting shopping delivered (mostly) and if we have to go out we keep well away from others.

I'm pretty convinced I've had it at the start of April...I work in a school and most of the kids were coughing just before lockdown. No temp though, just a horrendous sore throat and cough, we did isolate for 14 days but neither my partner or kids caught it.

I’m following parental instinct rather than the actual rules.

I did. I don't now. We go to my parents for tea, people come into our house and we don't social distance with people we know.

I do wear a mask and gloves when shopping.

I'm making the most of summer. Winter is going to be shit.

Yep, still following the rules, now bubbled with widowed mother which was a relief - luckily MiL who's local would rather bubble with her 80 miles away daughter so we didn't have to have an awkward conversation