Bubble with a shielder question

[moominmomma1234]

MIL wants to form a bubble with us. She is a shielder. Does it mean that we should follow the rules as a shielding household. So i should not have other households come to visit us from July ?
Should I explain to MIL the risks of me bringing it home from work and the kids bringing it home from school. I am so worried of giving it to her. She wont survive it. But i also dont want to scare her!
DH says just let her get on with it, she wants this bubble and she will know the risks, and i need to chill Out and stop worrying but i feel responsible. Feel like i am back to March level anxiety about Catching the virus again

I think it's responsible to make sure your MIL fully understands that your risk is higher if you work out of the home and your DCs are at school. Then I guess it's up to her.

I've told my DM I'm not happy to "bubble" with her. She's higher risk, and I'm a key worker. Whatever BoJo says, I know I'm higher risk so with continue to do distanced meet-ups outdoors for now.

Hmm maybe i should give her a little lecture about risks. She will still want to bubble though. She is desperate to have the kids stay over. Suppose its a bit of a disclaimer if i talk to her. But at same time i dont want to scare her or rub her nose in the fact that the world is still a dangerous place for her.

The guidance has been updated, see here.

On 22 June the government set out a series of steps for further relaxing shielding guidance which will come into effect on 6 July and 1 August.

From 6 July, the government will be advising:

you may, if you wish, meet in a group of up to 6 people outdoors, including people from different households, while maintaining strict social distancing
you no longer need to observe social distancing with other members of your household
in line with the wider guidance for single adult households (either an adult living alone or with dependent children under 18) in the general population, you may from this date, if you wish, also form a ‘support bubble’ with one other household. All those in a support bubble will be able to spend time together inside each other’s homes, including overnight, without needing to socially distance

The guidance has always included the fact that the guidance is advisory and it it is up to the extremely vulnerable wether they wish to follow it.

Thanks , I had read that but it’s the allowing other households into your home that I don’t know if I am allowed to partake in once I have a shielded in my bubble.
As soon as government announced people can visit your house I arranged play dates for my child, for July, but now I don’t know if I should cancel them because house visits are not allowed for shielders.

I don’t know wether to treat our home as a normal home when mil is not here or treat it as a shielded household and follow shielders rules all the time

The guidance says that: There is no need for other members of your household to follow the shielding measures themselves.

I live with DH who is shielding but I’m an NHS nurse, I had to keep 2m from him.

DS who is single has now been into the house once but kept 2m from DH who is sleeping on a separate room.

Oh that must of been a tough few months for you to keep 2m away!

We have formed a bubble with MIL who lives alone. She’s clinically vulnerable rather than extremely clinical vulnerable (so, not shielding but still high risk). Was entirely her choice but she toon into consideration that we are both wfh and observing social distancing, but within guidelines eg we are going to the shops (supermarkets and yes, the odd non-essential), meeting friends outdoors etc. DC is also not back at school (Y3) which helps (in this scenario!). She’s come to us as we have the bigger house, her flat is tiny - we also aren’t sending DC for sleepovers or visits alone. So a bit of a balancing act.

@moominmomma1234

Oh that must of been a tough few months for you to keep 2m away!

It certainly has!

I was working loads of extra (unpaid) hours at the beginning of it all and was the only one who could get to the shops.

The guidance for shielders specifically says to remember that you are at less risk due to it not circulating as much, however, your risk of severe illness if you get it is no less.

Personally, I wouldn't. But it's up to her.

Thanks everyone, i am seeing her this aft and i am going to talk to her about my concerns. I think she will still want to bubble but we will see.