I miss my parents- when do we think we can start socialising indoors?

[Hazysummers]

My parents live in Ireland. I haven’t seen them since February. It’s getting to the point now where I just want to have them over to stay for a week like I’d normally do. DH is obviously saying absolutely not until it’s legal and I get that, but my parents live in the middle of nowhere themselves so the chances of them having it are slim. They get the ferry over and stay in their car.

I said to DH last night that if the ‘rules’ aren’t lenient to having them over to stay for a few days by the end of July, then so long as the R rate hasn’t shut up dramatically, I’m sorry, but I’m having them over if they can safely get here. It doesn’t help that all my friends are back seeing their parents again and have been for a while. Obviously I can’t just pop over and sit in their garden.

Do we think the rules may change soon so that my parents coming over wouldn’t be breaking the law?!

There has been reports in media that up to 6 could be allowed to meet indoors.

But I wouldn't trust everything in the media right now (or ever actually!).

I hope there is a positive announcement for you all soon

Could they come over and stay in an AirBnB, and spend time with you outside

Thinking the same thing. Seems ridiculous I could go and stay in a dirty hotel and have a pint ordered from an app in a dirty pub at one metre's distance with them but not stay in my mum's lovely clean house.

Ireland seem to be relaxing quicker so could you go to see them instead? That might be allowed sooner.

Well they could do Violent Scone but surely staying in an air bnb is riskier for them? It’s ridiculous if the rules allow them to stay in a hotel (potentially mixing with a load of strangers where they don’t know where they’ve been/ who they’ve been in contact with etc) but can’t stay in their own daughter’s home who lives rurally herself and doesn’t come into contact with that many people. If it comes to it, i guess that’s what we’ll have to do but it just seems ridiculous.

Also, I’m really fearful of a second wave/ lockdown in the winter and I just keep thinking, if I don’t see them in the next couple of months, we may be locked down again soon and then it’s not looking likely that I’ll see them before next spring my dad’s 73, I’d be gutted if something happened in that time and I didn’t get a chance to see him.

I’m just fed up of it all now. I don’t CARE that bloody New Look and Next have reopened, that doesn’t make any difference to my life. Being able to have family stay for a few days in my home is what will make the difference to me.

I think people will come along and say that publicand and hoteliers will be policing the one-metre "rule" (just guidance BTW) but no one will be able to stop you hugging your parents in your own home. Well, good luck with that, publicans! I can see a lot of people kicking off in the pub and getting into fights as a result of either publican enforces or other customer enforced social distancing. The idea to have people drinking on the pavement is also stupid. Will be problematic for blind people and people in wheelchairs not to mention motorists if the pavement is narrow. I assume they have had the common sense to mandate drinks only in plastic containers outside.

I think if they do open pubs and hotels etc and reduce SD down to 1m tonight then many more people will just ignore SDing altogether.

There's no way even the most sensible of people are going to go with it being fine to stay overnight in a hotel, eating breakfast in a room full of others, having a drink and a meal in a pub or restaurant full of people 1m away, but it suddenly not being fine to sit 1m away from your own family inside just because it's now in their home rather than a restaurant!

I feel exactly the same op, but about my adult dcs. We're all wfh, not socialising, can drive door to door, but the rules don't allow them to visit (too far for a day trip).

Meantime, it's okay for people to queue shoulder to shoulder to get the latest trainers from JD Sports, huddle together outside pubs drinking takeaway beer and pissing in people's gardens, take part in mass demonstrations etc etc.

I'm feeling more and more inclined to do a Dominic Cummings and 'use my own judgment' rather than blindly following rules any more.

The speculation in the press today is that Boris will announce later that we can visit family and friends in each other’s homes and possibly stay overnight as long as we stay in small groups and that we don’t touch each other

From the 4th July. I’m so happy 😁

Is this true?!

From 4th July you can visit one household inside and stay overnight, as long as no more than two households are mixing at the same closed.

Still need to keep social distancing inside so no hugs. It's a nice start though, it'll probably be relaxed more in four weeks time.

I could cry with joy! My family who live a long way away can finally meet their new grandchild, niece, cousin! 😭🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

Hi OP I'm in the same boat, parents are in Ireland. I haven't seen them since October last year (was supposed to see them in March).

I'm also worried about a second wave over the winter. I'm not sure what to do, I have young kids so even if they did come over on the ferry, my girls wouldn't be able to do the social distancing. I think my mum would be ok with that but probably not my dad, he's been quite anxious about catching it. I'm also anxious that they will want us to go over on the ferry over winter as I get terrible sea sickness so going on the ferry has me stressed at the best of times! But they haven't seen my youngest since she was 12 weeks old or so, and she's coming up to one now.

Hope the announcement today makes it easier for you!

Still need to keep social distancing inside so no hugs

meh - not like they have cameras in the house to see what people are up to...….yet...….