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Anyone think they made a mistake sending their child back to school?

36 replies

KeysDontBelongInTheFridge · 18/06/2020 14:10

Hello,

Just wondering if anyone is in the same boat. I wasn't sure about sending my LO back, he's 6 years old, but I decided to give it a go. For the first time ever he says he doesn't like school, and if he could have one wish it would be not to go. I think he's not adjusting to the new environment and finding it hard. I'm wondering whether to just admit defeat and continue homeschooling him.

Anyone in a similar position? Argh!

Thanks x

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oxydrive73 · 18/06/2020 14:13

No , my son (Year 6) loves it but if he didn't I would have taken him back out again.

Solasum · 18/06/2020 14:16

How long has he been back? It might take a few days to readjust

Juststopswimming · 18/06/2020 14:18

No, my son is incredibly happy to be back and I dont know a single person who regrets it

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KeysDontBelongInTheFridge · 18/06/2020 14:18

Glad your sons enjoying it Oxy!

Solasum - he's been back two weeks

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ohthegoats · 18/06/2020 14:18

No, she's loving being back.

To be honest, it's been really handy for us. We were new to the village, and we have had to use the maximum breakfast club and after school club hours, so neither of us every see any other parents. Because we're having to do drop off and pick up now at usual time, and we're both working at home, we've been able to meet some other parents and walk to and from school with them (socially distanced of course). It's been nice.

If she wasn't loving it, I'd still have kept her there. She's got to get used to it at some point.

asteri76 · 18/06/2020 14:19

No, my 5 year old absolutely loves it.. he doesn't want to come home.. It has done his mental health the world of good!!

ThePlantsitter · 18/06/2020 14:20

How long's he been back?

My Y6 isn't enjoying it much as she isn't in a bubble with her friends and it's weird. She continues to moan after 2 weeks but when asked she says she would rather be there than stuck at home with us Hmm.

ThePlantsitter · 18/06/2020 14:21

Sorry cross post. If you can homeschool him and your own mental health won't suffer I don't think taking him out will hurt personally.

Greyscreendream · 18/06/2020 14:22

My daughter has been back almost 3 weeks and is loving it (she’s 5). She’s not with her usual teacher or classroom but as her best friends are in the same group it’s been ok even if she does miss her teacher.

If she wasn’t enjoying it I would have either taken her back out or only sent her in when I really needed to for work I think.

IncrediblySadToo · 18/06/2020 14:25

@ThePlantsitter

How long's he been back?

My Y6 isn't enjoying it much as she isn't in a bubble with her friends and it's weird. She continues to moan after 2 weeks but when asked she says she would rather be there than stuck at home with us Hmm.

Kids eh!!! Way to go to make you feel good Hmm. Still, good she can be honest about it !!
GabriellaMontez · 18/06/2020 14:28

No. We're all delighted.

Uhoh2020 · 18/06/2020 14:35

No not at all yes its different to before but they enjoyed it and my youngest seems to be more confident in himself with a smaller class.
If you take him out do you mean home school him permanently or just until the new term starts? I cant see there being much different to the classrooms in Sept than it is now less toys more desk based work no interaction with other classes.

lurker69 · 18/06/2020 14:46

I have 2 back and to be honest they are enjoying it, I felt really bad because my son normally hates school, but I think the fact they are only there for a few weeks before its shutting down again helps!!

SimonJT · 18/06/2020 14:47

Yes, but even during normal times going to school involved an hour of crying and screaming, so not a surprise! He isn’t in today or tomorrow so we’re trying again on Monday.

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KeysDontBelongInTheFridge · 18/06/2020 14:50

Simon - which year is your son in? Fingers crossed he's happier going in on Monday.

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KeysDontBelongInTheFridge · 18/06/2020 14:52

Thanks for the replies everyone! Glad so many are happy being back at school. Will probably try and give it another week and then take it from there. I need to remind him there's only about 25 more days left of term before he's back home again!

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SimonJT · 18/06/2020 14:54

He’s in reception, he often cries for an hour after drop off and sometimes to the point of being sick, so it isn’t a surprise! Once he has calmed down the does normally like it, but the changes in his classroom etc are a bit much for him. The lack of soft furnishings etc had made his class room echoy as well, so he can’t hear as well as usual (hearing impaired).

MamaGothel · 18/06/2020 14:56

My DD5 is happy to be back but not happy with her bubble. I spoke to her headteacher who is going to try and sort something out for her. Have you tried speaking to the school? They might be able to help him settle a bit

Uhoh2020 · 18/06/2020 15:13

OP I would only take him out if you are going to home school permanently and not just the rest of the year. If you take him out now and then send him back in September and he still doesn't like it what would you do then?
They need to adapt to the new way of schooling I'm afraid it's not going to be as it was before for a long time yet

LunaLoveFood · 18/06/2020 15:21

My y1 is loving being back, they are doing some really lovely afternoon activities and lots of outdoor learning so he's happy.

Timeforanotherusername · 18/06/2020 16:04

No. My 5 year old is happy he's back even if its part time.

He gets up in the morning and gets himself ready (unheard of). Tomorrow he is not there and I suspect he will stay in his pyjamas for longer.

LockdownLou · 18/06/2020 16:05

God no. My son is loving the return. Best thing I did was to return him.

Sunnyhopefulness · 18/06/2020 16:16

My year 6 loved it on the whole - but there have been up and down moments throughout the last 2 weeks .

At 6 years old he might just be bringing home the down memories - have you spoken / emailed his teacher to ask how he is in school ?

BabyLlamaZen · 18/06/2020 16:18

Do you think it's because it's not you and he's not used to it? I just wonder if tsking him out might exacerbate the problem. Does he have many friends there? maybe see how it goes - give it a few more weeks.

Thetriangle · 18/06/2020 16:34

Mine is happy as a clam - but they have ASD and although they normally find change hard and I was concerned how they’d settle, they are absolutely loving having a small class, their own table, lots of personal space, less noise, a strict routine, more work, less PE/assembly/crowd control and more outdoor time. Only a couple of his friends are back, but that seems to be enough. But even if they hated it I’d be persevering, because although I think they’ll get more children back in September I think soft toys, Lego, assemblies, physically touching each other etc will all still not be encouraged and there’s still going to be a lot of lining up and hand washing. I’d rather they got used to “new school” now, before the summer and while they’re in small groups (and in my child’s case with their normal teacher).

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