Who is still sticking to the rules? How are families with disabled DC coping?

[Soonbechrimbo]

I'm curious to ask this because when I was out yesterday driving to the supermarket I saw lots of people out and about in groups. I've also seen neighbours having family over etc and also have seen people on FB posting pictures with people over.

I have a 5 year old DD with severe learning disabilities and some medical needs but is not on the shielding list. I am struggling with her care needs as well as homeschooling my other child. DH is working from home but its just all getting a bit intense now keeping DD safe and keeping everyone happy, I had a bit of a sob (in the bathroom) yesterday whilst DD was safe sat in her wheelchair for 5 mins!

Our closest family members (aunty and uncle) are the only people I trust to look after DD and have said they are desperate to see the kids and look after them to give us a break. Keeping DD 2m apart would be impossible. TBH at this point I would consider it for my sanity but my Uncle works in a hospital in a very close to patients caring role so is at higher risk of contracting the virus :/ (not a covid ward tho).

I don't know really what I'm looking for from this as I think we'll just keep going as we are as we don't know how the virus could affect DD but it's all so shit :/

School for DD is not an option (not enough staff at school or transport!).

DS2 has no education place till social distancing has been removed or at the earliest September, I asked for a copy of his risk assessment. His overnight respite is on condition that he attends school. Both making me feel really guilty that I would even consider sending him to school. Social services fuming as still being charged 3 nights respite at 2:1 so in the thousands a month. School now not even phoning anymore and residential school looking unfortunately the only option left.

I would definitely take the help, it is a bit of a myth with the ECHP as the Covid law has reduced it, so all that is needed is reasonable attempt at provision and the only option of enforcement is judicial review. How do you argue with “reasonable”.