Hi
I'm aware that this could look as though I'm being selfish (I am far from it if you knew the whole story but that would take an age and this is likely to be long enough already), I've not agreed anything but I am just so conflicted and lost right now that I'm reaching out, so please don't comment if it is going to be derogatory or anything. Just need opinions/thoughts/reassurance etc not nasty words.
My partner stayed from the beginning of lock down until last Thursday as my son had a high temp when he was here and then the lock down was put in place so he just worked from here. He is now back at his (he lives just over an hours away from me) as his little girl lives up there and she's back in school and has shared custody, so he has weekends and weekday contact.
My son has only just started to see his dad again (he moved over 2hrs away when we split up a few years ago) as he is a key worker and lives with his parents, his mum is in the critical category and our son has asthma so we'd agreed contact would stay virtual rather than in person. They play games together on and are always doing video calls everyday. I set my son up with my old phone and whatsapp (only 5 "safe" numbers on it) and so they talk every day. I reluctantly agreed he could go this week for 5 days because he was working out in the sticks and on his own so I kind of looked at that as isolating.
Anyways, my point is, my partner wants to come back on Tuesday to spend Tuesday-Thursday lunchtime here and then go back to pick his daughter up from school and stay back at his until he drops her back to school on Friday morning. But what the heck do I do? Do I let him come back....risk myself and my son catching the dreaded Covid19 or do I say wait? We've technically lived together for the last 12 weeks and it was great, trial run at living together - worked well. But now I miss him like crazy.
Part of me wants him to come back but part of me is scared and its difficult as my partner says well if we were living together and she came to stay, it would be no different.....?? There's no chance of him coming here and socially distancing so that's not the answer.
Please can anyone just offer any advice? Anyone else in a similar situation? I can't be the only one....can I?