DS2 is a bit of a rule breaker. He's 21 now (last month so lockdown birthday). He and his GF are always out of the house seeing each other. We have allowed her over here and he's been over there (overnight - once). I feel constantly guilty as we have to make sure our friends don't know and my parents would be furious.
He is forever telling me that he's not the only one and his pals are seeing each other. Additionally her parents are ok with it and drive her here or him there. How much flexibility can you give a kidult in this way and when do you say 'no'?
DS3 has a GF too but she's local so they have been meeting up every so often when out walking the respective dogs, but DS2's GF lives 20 minutes drive away so is feeling very lonely. She's also an only child.
If we say no, he'll go out on his bike anyway and meet her plus their pals.
Wish this fg thing would end as I hate being "bad Mum" all the time.