DS (7) played football with the neighbour in the park. I had no issue with tackling as contact was very short-lived.
I'm happy to maintain 2m in places like queues but I am not going to enforce unnatural rules that defy the way children play, especially with DS1 (9) who has ASD and spent years building up to real friendship and learning how to play and collaborate with children. I do not need to encourage any fear of other people or fear of "germs" or "dirt" to a naturally risk adverse, anxious child who will struggle to unlearn it and revert to a real normal. DS1 is OK with a quiet life, my concern is that this is a temporary situation and he needs to be able to adapt to a normal level of busyness over the coming months.
DS2 is struggling more. At 7, he looks likely to be missing a sixth of his school life. He has not had normal childhood interactions or activities for near 2 consecutive summer holidays worth. A sociable child, he is lucky to have DS1 close in age and interests, but it's not enough, especially when DS1 is prone to emotionally overreacting and physically lashing out. That is not a long term, healthy dynamic. Under normal circumstances most parents would be very concerned if that was the dynamic of their child's only friend.
The first week of lockdown, DS2 and next-door/ friend/ classmate were happily playing football over the fence (it was unenforcable not to as balls always go flying in both directions). After a week it wore off. DS2 withdrew because he found it so hard having his friend so near but so far on the other side of a 6 foot fence, constantly hearing but never seeing. Now rules have eased, he gets to hear his friend being excited over his grandparents popping round. Due to timings, ill health/age and location, my DCs haven't seen a family member beyond our household since Christmas. They probably won't be seeing half their family this year because flying during a pandemic and frail grannies are a bad combination. Let's hope granny has a few more years left in her...
We go for a 5 minute walk to the local shopping precinct... past their shut-up school (to their year groups)...past the closed up community centre where they should be doing Scouting... past the padlocked playground... past the locked up leisure centre where they do sports clubs... So many reminders of what they have been banned from doing for months and have no sign of being restored to them.
We've kept talk of the virus low key, factual and up-to-date. No scaremongering.
But DS2 is struggling. He's always affectionate, but is wanting a lot of physical contact. Crying that he needs new friends. A far more sensitive temper than usual. DS1 will find it harder when we come out the other side, and the longer this deprivation of normal childhood activity limps on for, the harder that will get to for him adapt back.
Children learn so much from their peers and parents can not replicate that. DS1's and his friend's only phone conversation went "Hi"... "Hi"... "Hi"... "Hi"... pause I'm wearing a minecraft t-shirt... hands phone back. A friend tried video calling DS2 a couple of times that turned into a monologue about the statistics on pokemon cards... DS2 put the phone down leaving friend monologuing to the artex pattern on the ceiling. They just don't have the maturity of social skills to deal with this shaddow half-life by phone or zoom and they find it easier to retreat and pretend that real life didn't happen. Some children will find it harder to bounce back from that than others.
This experience has dragged up a lot of memories of when I was also 7 and we moved across the country severing my friendships, rather ill-timed in the summer term. In the final weeks of the school year I failed to make any friends before the summer holidays. It felt like an eternity being an isolated, only child with not a single friend. That was about 10 weeks from the move to the new school year, but at least there was the interest of new places to explore and visit not stuck in the same house, doing the same walks, seeing all the fun things shut up. I had forgotten quite a lot of that summer 30+ years on.
This is not healthy for children. They need their peers. They need normal interactions with their peers, not social distancing. Some children will feel long term effects from this.