Friend issue with corona rules

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So keeping to the rules I visited my friend outside with my kids in her garden. She seemed offended at us keeping 2 meters apart, told me to get a grip when I wouldn’t allow my kid inside to watch tv or use toilet. We brought our own drinks which she laughed at.

She had someone stay at her house the night before that I didn’t know about until I arrived. My fiend has worked all the way through and has seen people in gardens all the way through.

I left bloody annoyed and uneasy at seeing her again whilst this is ongoing. I felt totally ridiculed for following the rules. Am working up to seeing my shielding mother who is sick in. Hospital at the moment as soon as we can so yes probably do follow the rules to the letter. Have you had friendships affected by difference of opinion on this?

Wow that rings home to me as my friend has constantly had people round over the last 10 weeks but justified it by saying they socially distanced. In that time I felt well it’s her life and her family I don’t agree and said so but was up to her what she done.
She twice turned up at my house during last ten weeks whe I asked her not to.
As I knew she was keen to see me and I had missed her she was one of the first I went to see but had to take my kids. I was so pissed off as I just wanted to sit at a distance and see and chat to her, kids had their own drinks that I brought and were sat on a chair together.
As they were squashed on one garden chair she said there’s a seat right here and patted next to her. They knew now to.
Then she had made scones and offered them some. Then she thought they looked bored so said go inside and watch tv. Then asked youngest if she wanted toilet. She said no and my friend said It’s fine I will bleach it.
She has worked as a key worker throughout and I know adores us all but we just seem on complete different wavelengths. She turns up at my house regularly before all this and now I am dreading it starting again. I just feel weird about it all

There used to be a rule that men couldn't have sex with men. (Or women with women, but no one cared so much about that or even believed it was possible.) Was it right because it was a rule? Was it right that gay men lived in constant fear of prosecution.

No.

The fact that the government makes something a 'rule' doesn't mean that it's a good rule. In the case of covid, most reasonable people agree that there should have been a lockdown. Many reasonable people disagree on when it should have ended, or whether it should still be continuing. The science itself is full of uncertainty. Our government is manifestly a self-serving racket -- hardly some unassailable moral guardian of authority.

All we can do is interpret the available evidence and make up our own minds. The fact that Boris says x today and y tomorrow is really neither here nor there... It should be obvious that the government is largely concerned about optics, not about public health.

Your friend was I think being judgmental in apparently mocking your reasonable caution. But she may well be the person whose behaviour turns out, in retrospect, to have been more sensible.

I’ve hugged my parents and MiL.

I’ve sat in the garden with a friend who wanted to observe the 2m rule and not use the loo - I respected that.