WWYD? Teenage DS'maki g plans with friends today (in Scotland)

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DS (18.5) just advised he is going to a friends for a couple of beers later, when quizzed another 3 or 4 friends planning to go too.

Obviously against lockdown rules in Scotland which now allows is to mix with people from one other household whilst maintaining social distancing. I told him this and he's not too happy. What would you do?

He is an adult so I kind of can't stop him, but he does live here. My DM us shielding and very vulnerable, I'm shopping for her. DH and I are both homeworking and only going out to shop once a week.

AIBU to tell him not to go? Or do we just have to accept this kind of thing happening? His 21 year old brother was at a friend's yesterday and I know a couple of others were there too, all supposedly socially distancing and beer drinking.

God this is so stressful. Bloody Dominic Cummings.

Don't blame DC

Your 'kids' are adults and are making their own decisions to go against the rules and advice from the scientists.

Don't blather on about the rules, discuss the reports the scientists have done & the imos t in others (esp your mum) on not following the rules.

Honestly give people an inch, they'll take a country mile.

As your DS are technically adults, tell them to pack a bag so they can stay at their friends until lockdown is over. Whilst I understand their pain, they're being incredibly selfish.

Advice is not to go into anyone's house. So if they are having beers outdoors, it is safer.

They are adults, you can't stop them but you can talk to them and explain how their risk taking impacts the rest of the family. The more people he mixes with the more likely he is to then have to isolate under track and trace. That's how I have sold it to my teenage boys. To be fair we are in England but they are still best of not pushing it and mixing too much.

Just explain the risks to your household that it'll bring (although I'm sure he already knows) but as others have said you can't stop him. Teenagers and young adults are breaking the rules left right and centre now, there's not a lot you can do unfortunately. They've gone this long without seeing their friends and they're getting bored of it now

God this is so stressful. Bloody Dominic Cummings

Its absolutely nothing to do with Dominic Cummings. Thats a ridiculous comment.

Your son is an adult. Hes making the decision to break the rules uou/he cant blame anyone else

Safer now than in a few weeks time

My 19 year old DS met up with 5 friends from different households for beers yesterday. In England though that's alright... but not technically until tomorrow!

See how nonsensical these rules are? You have to risk asses and make your own judgements rather than following the rules to the letter. So long as your DS and his friends are sensible and distance, etc, I would just let them crack on.

We've spoken to DS and he's accepted he can't go. Agree its only going to get worse especially if we have a summer of good weather, and it's so difficult when not everyone is going to adhere to the rules as they are relaxed.

And yes I know its nothing to do with DC.