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Ex won't isolate

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KatieBw · 27/05/2020 07:57

Any thoughts on this please? My ex and father of my DD has seemed to struggle to isolate through this lockdown in london. He is a privileged man with a Dominic Cummings-attitude towards the rules ie. fine for everyone else but not him. While my family and I have observed the rules, he has been out and about a lot, farmers markets, popping for coffee, driving to a family house in the country, seeing people outside our family group. We don't live together but he sees our DD a couple of times a week. It has been a source of mild irritation that he has seemed unable to isolate, or be transparent about that fact, while my children and I have stuck to quite a rigid lockdown since mid March. My kids haven't seen their grandparents or friends for months.

This weekend, he took his adult daughter and her bf and friend to his mothers house in the country (his mother isn't there but a couple who rent a property next to the house are). He wanted to take our DD but there was no way they could social distance there or on the journey and I have no idea if the others have been isolating. He himself is in a vulnerable age group and his older daughter has health problems related to her obesity.
My issue is that when he comes back, he will want to take our DD again and have her stay over at his house. But having isolated so carefully, I feel he has continually compromised our efforts and potentially exposed us to infection. He will definitely have socialised & visited places whilst away.
Would it be unreasonable to suggest no-contact or that he isolate on his return? Our arrangement anyway has been pretty informal. He's not hugely interested in seeing our DD daughter at the best of times, hence taking his older daughter away for half term.

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TheDailyCarbuncle · 27/05/2020 09:15

Is your DD vulnerable - does she have health issues?

KatieBw · 28/05/2020 09:44

No she doesn't. And I appreciate she's be unlikely to have a problem but she could potentially pass on a virus to me or to her brother

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Moondust001 · 28/05/2020 09:50

And or either of you vulnerable? Why are you isolating so rigidly?

KatieBw · 30/05/2020 11:20

I've been isolating quite strictly because I don't want to get ill. I have friends who've had covid and it's been horrific. I've been following the guidelines and easing up very slowly. I have felt compromised by my ex seeing us when he has seen multi people throughout.

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