Can I see my partner who I don't live with?

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Post DC, does anyone give a shit anymore about the rules? We live in an area where there have been no new cases in 24 hours. My partner and I have been together 4 years but we both have 3 kids each so we don't live together. We are really missing each other now. The road maps don't seem to mention when couples can get back together.

In Scotland we are about to go to meeting family in the garden while maintaining social distancing at the end of this week.

The next phase is in three weeks time and we can go indoors with family.

I’m looking forward to seeing my mum. I didn’t drive up and stay for a few days at her birthday or drive around castles to check my eyesight was ok.

Thanks Elieza. Nicola Sturgeon has seemed to be really intelligent about all of this and really clear with her messages. Maybe my partner and I will just follow Scotland's advice and meet indoors (ie start a normal relationship again) in 3 weeks' time. We are currently allowed to meet outdoors as long as the kids aren't with us, so we've just started doing that.

(2m apart)

I think you and your partner need to give some thought to what your personal risk is, eg does anyone in either household work outside the home? Is anyone in either household at higher risk due to medical conditions? Obviously, the law says you shouldn't be meeting up (other than 2m apart in a public place, assuming you are in England), but given that you are considering using your own judgment, those are the issues you need to think about. Also, if you or your partner have children who are old enough to leave the house unaccompanied, think about the fact that if they see their parents breaking the rules, they are probably more likely to break the rules themselves.

And in answer to your question about whether anyone gives a shit about the rules post-DC, I do know someone in the same situation as you (ie committed relationship but doesn't live with partner) who is still keeping to the rules, so that's at least one!

@Elieza I'm really happy for everyone in Scotland. It's absolutely ridiculous that this situation hasn't been covered by the UK government. In 3 weeks all we have to look forward to is outdoor BBQs with 10 people, which I frankly couldn't give a frig about.

If people are jumping up and down about Dominic Cummings then do the same that makes them as bad as him. We are not in lockdown for the good of the government we are doing it to reduce the spread of this highly contagious disease which has killed over 40,000 people

I cannot believe the government hasn’t given clarity about this or when it might be allowed. Romantic relationships need regular contact to be sustained, it’s not like when you see an old friend after 6 months and it feels like nothing has changed. The government cannot expect people to effectively sacrifice their relationships for this.

No one gives a shit about going to primark if you can’t kiss your partner.

Thanks for all your replies. We are still distancing. My partner is having a an incredibly bad day today, feeling the distance between us, and I want to be able to give her a hug.

If the state carries on like this the human species will die out in the UK as people won't be able to find partners and have babies. Yes loads of people are respecting this. My son has not seen his girl friend for about 10 weeks.

I totally agree with @Medstudent12. I really don't give a shit about anything else until I can hug my partner again.

I didn’t realise Scotland have said in 3 weeks time you can meet people indoors?
I really hope we’ll follow suit

My dd hasn't seen her bf for nearly 3 months.

The rules are clear if you want them to be.

In Scotland when we meet people indoors we are still to stay 2m apart so I’m not getting my hopes up for cuddling anyone yet!

We have the same dates as the rest of the U.K. so in three weeks time England may make some changes too? Don’t despair.

Is there even any inkling of when we might be able to do this? I’m flabbergasted that the government have said nothing about it when for many it’s tearing them apart.

If you want to make sure your vision is clear, yes you can.

MonaLisa haha, it's so ridiculous at this point.

Haha @MonaLisaDoesntSmile. Yes, or I could get my partner to come in with a mop bucket and clean for me. That way I could see her too. Check my vision by driving with her in the car or get her to be my cleaner. Fucking ridiculous.

Do your own risk assessment, if you feel it is safe just do it. Your mental health matters.

Totoros I worry about one of my housemates reporting me for staying at partners house overnight. One of them is very strict.

My daughter feels the same about her partner. She’s been seeing him 2m apart outside, since that was allowed. But she just needs to hug him. She has bad anxiety which doesn’t help. It’s frustrating to hear that Italy allowed hugging after 8 weeks of lockdown, and here they’re only talking about a family bbq in the garden, with distancing, after 13 weeks!! How can it be so different for us when we had around the same curve as Italy? My daughter is willing to see no one for months in exchange for being able to hug her partner again.
She doesn’t want to break the rules. But her mental health is deteriorating to the point where I think she will have to.

You can meet your partner 2m apart outdoors.

@Catsmother1 - that's what gets me too. The mental health side of things. Mine is shot now, I'm living on beta blockers to get me through, and hers like I said took a turn a couple of days ago.

We're both single mums with 3 kids each and we can't support each other, it's fucking hard.

Hope your daughter finds a way through this in good health, @Catsmother1

@Floatyboat so meeting outdoors and not even hugging for 10 weeks is good enough? I’d be worried about my relationship if I didn’t want to touch my partner! It’s not the same.