Does anyone feel we’re being left out?

[Thewheelsonthebus23]

Those people with family/parents living hours away that is.

We can’t meet up for a socially distant walk and even if one of us travelled to the other, we’d have to stay overnight/vice versa. So it’s no go and still no idea on when it will happen.

Well yes, but not intentionally. It is what it is. DH’s family live in Spain and our flights out to them in July have just been cancelled so will be a while until we see them!

I don’t feel left out no. We made the choice to live where we do and part of that is the knowledge that sometimes it’ll be difficult to see family.

I imagine it’s harder if you’ve stayed put whilst others have moved but for me that’s just the risk you take moving away from an area.

What do you think can be done to make you feel included?

That's just life isn't it. We can't do this with any of our parents but we made the choice to live where we do.

We just need to wait.

I think it's a bit unfair to say that people made their choice to move far away. Those choices were made in the expectation that they could choose to make the journey to visit whenever they wanted. Nobody chose this.

For what it's worth my mum has a big birthday this weekend and while siblings live close enough to be able to go and say Happy Birthday in the garden we can't as we are 3 hours away.

If I were you @Teentraumatrials i would go.

I've not seen my parents, I don't feel I've been left out because I am looking at the evidence, the information and making my own decision to stay away until this point. That said we did see other relatives in their garden this week (our age) and my young adult children to check up on them because they are at significant lower risk. As we both had symptoms many weeks ago (before tests for not nhs were available, imma keyworker) I think we are at very low risk of being a carrier

A bit. I'm my mother's only relative in the country. She lives two hours away. My grandmother (her mum) died in march. I was self isolating due to persistent cough, temperature and breathlessness so couldn't go to the funeral. All my friends have plans to let their DC go for socially distanced walks with their grandparents from thursday. It might be august before mine see family.

My parents only live an hour away, but they are too nervous to meet (which is fine - absolutely their choice) so I'm not sure when I'll see them.

I am sad I don't get to see them, but not left out as such. It isn't being done to stop us seeing family, it's to minimise the virus. Research shows inside is much higher risk than outside for spreading the virus so we can't go inside other households at the moment and I understand that and think it's sensible. Lets hope most people stick to the rules being set so we can all go and see our relatives soon!

No one's being left out. The government can't prepare for everyone's personal circumstances. The only way it would be sensible for you to visit another household is if you were decked out in full PPE.

At least you can talk to them on the phone.
It's all relative, some people can visit theirs, you can't visit yours but you can FaceTime them, others can't FaceTime but can talk on the phone, others can't do anything because their parents are dead.
We all have hardships at the moment and compassion is needed not moping about how it's worse for you then others. There is always somebody worse off.

What Raccoonworld said.

I haven’t seen my parents since Christmas and I miss them but in a way it’s been easier for me than people who live nearby and are used to seeing parents every week. And we are lucky as we managed to get them onto Zoom.

I think it's a bit unfair to say that people made their choice to move far away. Those choices were made in the expectation that they could choose to make the journey to visit whenever they wanted. Nobody chose this

I agree no one could possibly foresee this particular circumstance. Maybe I’m just a cynic but I know when I moved I did it with the knowledge that illness, finances or other circumstances could prevent me from easily being able to get back. That’s just a consequence of distance.

It doesn’t take much to be unable to travel - things go wrong all the time.