Those with vulnerable kids - how often are they being checked on?

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My son has a disability SW. She talked to us twice in the first month. That's it. His home link worker hasn't checked in since then either.

I'm wondering how common this is? I'm not slatting either of them btw.

I wouldnt want either of them to turn up tomorrow if lockdown ended tomorrow to be honest. Staying on top of things and feeling great MH wise hasn't been easy. In fact until I can get the kids out of the house and pull the furniture out for a proper deep clean I wouldnt think they would be impressed. It's not terrible by any means but if someone has kicked a apple core under the sofa ten weeks ago I'd be none the wiser. Dh has put up a new climbing frame so the old one is rotting in a corner in the garden.

Just a culmination of things that become increasing hard to do with young kids with SEN under your feet. I'm catching up on those deep clean out of sight, out of mind jobs today as dh is off. But day to day it's not that easy.

I wonder generally if anyone is really checking in on the really vunerable

My dd's class teacher calls up every week. DD has an Ehcp.

Deep clean? What's that?

Sounds like you want reassurance that someone isn't going to just turn up?

Haven’t you had contact from your son’s school?

Dd has an EHCP. Her TA calls twice a week.

DS has an EHCP, a TA calls every other week.

Well they wouldnt just turn up now surely? Plus they have never ever just turned up in the past so no worries there.

Deep clean is pulling all the furniture out and fishing out crap from.under the sofa and TV unit. I haven't done that in over two months.

I'm more wondering about who is totally off radar? Is anyone not getting any contact? My sons back at school btw so I'm guessing that while he going in, seen to be fine that's why not check in from anyone with me.

I know local schools are actively discouraging vulnerable kids from going back. So, it's more wondering who is checking on the rest of these kids?

Just being nosey I guess.

My SW has never looked under my sofa btw. But she has ever right to look where ever she wants. She wouldnt be impressed if she turned up today it's TRUE to say. To my shame pulling out a sofa with the kid rushing in with glee picking out a dusty toy among other disgusting crap isnt my idea of fun. But it's all those kind of places, crap shoved in a corner, socks festering just out of sight under a bed etc. That kind of thing. Looks ok at first glance but look a bit closer and you could devote a solid ten hours to getting it straight

Why don't you and your DH take it in turn to clean, while one looks after the DC?

One of you could play in the garden with DC?

I teach in an SEN (SEMH) secondary school. All our students have EHCPs. One of the tutors (we have two per class) has been calling each family 2-5 times a week, depending on the level of need/parental preference. We are also delivering food parcels to roughly half of our families so have contact that way.

We have done home visits for those we haven’t been able to reach for 5 working days.

We have a family worker, due mainly to my MH. She video called twice at the start of lockdown. Then went off sick
Her manager called once and asked if I wanted someone else to call. I said no (thought she was off for a week or 2). Haven't heard from anyone since.

DS1s school have called once. I missed the call. Emailed them told them we are fine.
DS2s school have called twice

We are fine and I am coping. But if I wasn't then no one would know.

Porpentia sorry to hear this. I think if ds wasnt in school then that's where I would be too. My dd school phones to talk to her at 8.20 so I always miss the call and they dont call back and I dont have anyway to contact them as her school is shut, teaching is done centrally from a bigger school. So she is 100% of radar but hasn't got sen. So not vunerable.

I think it's quite common from the feeling I'm getting of local SEN FB groups. So it's TRUE for SEN I wonder if it's true for CP?

Yes dh has taken the kids out so I did clean under the furniture ( yuck!) My dh works long hours out out the house. I'm lucky I have a partner to share the load. I would normally talk to my SW once a month and home link worker every two weeks. School would be daily via a home link book but that's stopped as no book bags are allowed in school. So the kids are fine, happy we are coping but not to amazingly high standard. I would guess overall in lockdown our normal contact levels are 25% what they would be. Over the last three weeks it's been zero. Fine for us. But not for those who need it.

My DC don't have any SEN. They are just classed as vulnerable due to my MH. I didn't worry for children who aren't ok and whose parents don't admit it when asked if they need help.