32 weeks pregnant - do I send DD back to nursery?

[Sarah472]

Hi,

Never posted in a forum before, but I'm feeling a bit stuck in these wierd times. I'm 32 weeks pregnant, and have a 2.5 almost 3 year old daughter. me and my husband are both working from home, and managing ish. it's tiring and she has a lot of screen time, but both of our jobs are being flexible enough to accommodate it all at the moment. my husband has been advised by the NHS that he should be shielding because he takes immuno-suppressants.

Our nursery has said it will be reopening on the 1st June - i keep going back and forth about whether to send her or not. My biggest concern is that she would bring it home, either me or my husband would get it and it would mean we couldn't be together for the birth if we happened to catch it around the due date. i'm not that concerned about getting really sick with the virus itself as i don't feel DD would or either me or my husband even though he's on immuno suppressants - his drs have said his shielding is very precautionary. i just don't want to give birth without my husband with me. but at the same time, I'd really like DD to get back to nursery, so we've got some time to get on with work and so she can socialise more, particularly when the baby comes i always planned for her to be in nursery so i would have some time with just me and the baby.

my husband thinks it's just too risky and we shouldn't send her, especially as it's not like it's a normal nursery at the moment with dropping off / picking up at the door and all the PPE the staff will be wearing. it will be quite a different experience for her. but i'd really like some time to rest and chill out for a bit (as well as get some actual work done!) before the baby arrives.

Keen to get some views on what others in similar positions are intending to do, i can't get a handle on whether a lot of people are too nervous about it anyway and won't be sending their kids back or they just want to get back to some sort of normal and have to send the kids back because of their jobs!!

thanks in advance :)

How long will DH be on immunosuppressants? If it's only a couple of weeks you may want to keep DD home. If it's indefinite, you can't keep her home forever.
I think it unlikely that DD will get it 6 weeks from now so DH has it exactly 8 weeks from now. But what do I know?

@Disquieted1 he's on them indefinitely. i'll def send her back at some point after the baby is born, it's just do i send her in before or not. I'm happy that it'll be mild for any of us to get it i'm sure, but even if DH or I got it with only mild symptoms, it would still affect the birth. it does seem so unlikely that one of us would get it at the exact worst time, but it's sods law i guess!

I think it’s depends where you live / how big the nursery is / how you would travel there etc. Rural, small, walk there - go for it; City, huge, public transport - no.

I'm in this situation exactly. Toddler DD is 1.5year and I am 30 weeks pregnant.

We are both wfh and shattered.

The only difference i suppose is that my partner is not immunosuppressed.

We are erring on the side of sending our daughter in on 1st June if only because the nursery will be charging us regardless!

If he's shielding I wouldn't. In theory if she goes back to nursery and you're doing nursery run, he needs to be shielding from you. My friend and her husband both wfh but she needs to go into the office occasionally. He's shielding so she's taking DD in with her when she goes to work so they're both being "exposed" so when they're home he's keeping his diatance, sleeping apart etc and all the childcare is on her. I wouldn't want that if it's avoidable