Classed as most vulnerable should I send child back

[MummaL32]

No one seems to have an answer nor has it been clearly said about children returning to school , we are confused on what to do about step son, his mother is a transplant patient and classed as most vulnerable I am also in last two weeks of pregnancy so also in the at risk category Altho she is at much higher risk then me as she has no immune system to fight virus. Neither household wants to get poorly obviously and I have 2 children one in year 6 which I would like to send back so he has some closure on primary school - other in year 1 who can also return I am also a key worker Altho now on furlough because in the at risk group. I guess my question is should we send step son back to school when mother is is that much at risk? As gov said those lost at risk would have to distance for a long time to come yet so I'm torn x

The way I see it you have two options:

1. Have step-son live with you for the next few months (to see his mother for short visits in open air, maintaining social distance and, ideally, wearing a mask)

or,

2. He stay off school and shield with his mother but can't see his step-family (unless short visit in open air whilst maintaining social distances)

Sorry, OP. It's a shit situation with no ideal way of doing that ensures everyone is healthy and happy.

What a tricky situation, OP. Is your step son in Reception, Year 1 or Year 6?

Here's the official advice from DfE -

"Children and young people who live in a household with someone who is extremely clinically vulnerable and shielding should only attend if stringent social distancing can be adhered to and the child or young person is able to understand and follow those instructions.

Children and young people who live with someone who is clinically vulnerable (but not extremely clinically vulnerable) as defined in the social distancing guidance and including those who are pregnant, can attend."

(www.gov.uk/government/publications/closure-of-educational-settings-information-for-parents-and-carers/reopening-schools-and-other-educational-settings-from-1-june#should-i-keep-my-child-at-home-if-they-have-an-underlying-health-condition-or-live-with-someone-in-a-clinically-vulnerable-group)

Yes see the official advice above and remember "stringent social distancing' means the DCs would have to keep right away from their mum, no contact whatsoever, if bathroom shared then clean it after they've used it, etc.

Very hard for everyone whatever you choose.

Horrible situation, but as pp have said, it seems to be a choice between staying with his mum, shielding or staying with. Sadly if your other DC are going to school, he won't be able to see her, even if he himself doesn't.

I know it's so hard I just wanted to gather some
Options on it really and gain some advice at the mo because I'm off and she's in he's doing a week with us a week with her which is fine because none of us are going out besides that we transfer him from one house to the other when children return to school tho this willl prob change again when this all started we wasn't allowed to see him for 5 weeks then they introduced that pregnant women was also included and she was able to relax a little more and we started on two weeks each that way if anyone got sick he would stay where he was and it also better protected her and me honestly this corona virus is crazy business I am so worried about baby when he's born aswel as I've got to make sure he's protected which will include
Weather mine go back to school or not we have Rec year 1 & year 6 so they would all return school told me today they would be splitting classrooms into 15 each so social distancing is taking place but did stress they're is no guarantee they are able to put in place to ensure nothing spreads even tho they will try hardest