How many of you have neighbours who

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are breaching? And did you do anything? Just experienced it for the first time and I'm so cross.

I think that's about right, Lynda. I suppose worrying about what you can control is the healthiest way to be, but on the flip side you are able to report people flouting the rules and it's for the greater good. But then you're no better than the Stasi...

It's all about risk. Some are willing to take a risk, some aren't. There will always be people who don't do as they are told. I don't have immediate neighbours so don't know who is doing what. However someone I know has posted on their SM that the police have turned up to their street tonight because neighbours are sat in their own gardens chatting and having a "street party". Nothing different to last weeks stay at home street party for VE Day but it's obviously irked somebody. I wouldn't mind but I imagine 99% of those reporting are doing it out of spite and not genuine concern!

Luckily @Samtsirch I don't!

@SockYarn yes, it's odd how all these mass gatherings occur at mumsnetters neighbours. Iirc a few weeks ago 600 calls in Manchester made national news, and yet it seems every second mumsnetter comes across these mass gatherings on a daily basis.

Yep and the worst thing is she is a carer for the elderly. Various cars parking outside and various people in and out meeting in the garden and sneaking down the side passage which is weird. Just feel sorry for her clients.

Ours are sharing a small jacuzzi with friends and practically squeezed in like sardines. Apparently it's okay as "now we're allowed to mix with as many people as we like in our gardens". Er... not quite. And don't get me started on the chlorine fumes that are poring over the fence!

None of my neighbours has complied with any of it from day one. They think people who make a big fuss are up themselves. We've had a "street party" every weekend and VE day came complete with ambulance staff, care home staff, pregnant women and elderly people sat round 6 to a table in the street sharing out sausage rolls and clinking their glasses to toast each other's superior insight into the crisis.

2 sets of our neighbours were up late drinking together (after 1am) last weekend. Disgusting imo. One is a GP, you would think he would know better. They also lit a fire that the smoke drifted into our house from until that time.

I didn't report it as I doubt anything would have been done.

It does rather reveal a lot about people and society. I'm sure there will be many PhDs written on the back of the pandemic.

I have a block of flats next to my house and every time the sun shines they party. The noise is dreadful and social distancing is non existent. Last week my neighbour counted 18 people on the other side of my wall.
I haven't called the police because I don't want to cause trouble for me but someone did because they showed up and dispersed them.

I’d report a party but not one or 2 people in the garden who are 2m apart.

None of my business so not paying attention.

Fancy going to 3 garden centres and then they will end up taking up beds in A and E or worse still ICU and deprive others of beds when they could have avoided the situation

ODFOD.

I cant get worked up about people going to garden centres or having a friend in their garden. Parties obviously a very bad idea. We're going to be dealing with this virus and social distancing for months if not years to a degree so its probably better for your own mental health to just focus on yourself and the risks you can control.

no idea🤷🏼‍♀️I don't keep tabs on my neighbour's or monitor them in any way, I may have passed them in the common areas of the building once a week or so pre covid but at the moment with everyone minimising their going ins and outs🏘️I barely see anyone at all😳
so I have no idea what the neighbours do🤷🏼‍♀️

The thing is, we all see our neighbours doing things. Some of those might be ‘against’ lockdown rules but it doesn’t mean they are necessarily dismissive of the rules. We only see the tip of the iceberg of someone else’s situation. Perhaps family are visiting because the mental
health of one of those people is so poor that they need the support. It isn’t only Covid that can be dangerous and some people might be in more immediate danger than from the virus.

So long as they aren’t interacting with you it doesn’t affect you directly. Most people are able to risk assess their own contacts too. I’m the most at risk person in my family to everyone else, for example, as I’m a key worker and everyone else is furloughed or off school.

I haven't seen my elderly parents since the beginning of March, I haven't seen any of my other family or friends in that time either, I have barely left my house, apart from going on a few walks. I am going above, and now beyond the rules.

I don't believe that we do live in a world of selfish bastards, we just live in a world of people and everyone does what they can do. Some people can handle these times, other people can't.

There was never going to be 100% compliance, so the way I look at it is that I'll just get on with it, because I can and I will not allow myself to become judgemental or bitter or vindictive to other people who can't.

My neighbours always have their young grandchild over at the weekend, this has continued as usual. The child's family also turn up at some point, sometimes staying over. Initially they appeared without their car, now they are more blatant and park outside the house. We all know what they are doing as the noisy grandchild is loud and shouts for granddad and grandma in the garden. Makes me angry considering the sacrifices we are all making and no I have not reported although I would really like to.

It's not being a nazi to be angry at being doing these things. Someone I know died today from coronavirus. It has devastated my DH's family as she was taken way before her time, she wasn't even a pensioner and wasn't ill or anything. All very sudden.

Until these selfish, ignorant and to be honest nasty arseholes have that happen to them or their loved one's, they'll never stop. My neighbour across the road has a constant stream of visitors, random men etc. If I see her tomorrow doing the same, I'm going to retrieve an egg from my fridge and throw it off her face. We've really had enough of her brazen behaviour and her seeing her stupid face clapping for the NHS. Nothing but a hypocrite

Yes, my neighbours at either side have been breaching lockdown since the start. One side have been particularly bad with so many comings and goings that I did report them.

Ones over the road have all sorts of cats coming and going and the woman is a nurse.

My own bloody family are the worst, firstly SIL made this big thing about not being able to hug her grand-daughter on her birthday then her other daughter posted an Instagram video of grand-daughter blowing out candles and who is sitting in the living room with her? SIL. Niece has also been out walks with her BF she doesn’t live with and SIL has been driving to her friends and local beauty spots for walks.

Then my Dad who is 65 and a very heavy smoker with a hacking cough and heart problems was fitting a shower for someone who asked him.

My aunt and uncle made this big thing of being in their 70s and shielding then they tell me they’ve been to their grand-daughters gender reveal party.

I feel like no one has taken it seriously

To play devils advocate... the mums on here mentioning parties haven’t said they’ve reported it so these parties won’t be investigated by police or in those stats. So it’s an unjust comparison.

My neighbours are fine. Next door but one keep having people round to meet with deckchairs in their front garden for hours at weekends but I just roll my eyes and keep away from them.

I don't think I would necessarily notice what the neighbours are doing, I don't even know what households are in the next door property. I certainly haven't noticed anyone breaching any of the guidance.

My neighbours are new on one side. They’ve been out and about since day one. They’ve had people round regularly. There have been lots of men helping out in the garden. It’s really bugged me but I’ve not reported them or anything.

The other side is an elderly couple. They’ve had family round every day, however the grandchildren have come in the sideway and sat away from their grandparents in the garden in masks. All perfectly safe even if it’s against the “rules”. That’s not bothered me at all.

Oh do stop with the hysteria.

The nightingale hospital in London was closed after only having a handful of people in there.
The very large hospital I work at has just been told to stand down and get back to elective work ASAP.
There just are not the cases coming through the doors to justify nurses sitting there doing nothing anymore. So if you do catch it and need it you will get an ITU bed. Stop scaremongering.
What I do find odd is that it's been fairly obvious that the overweight don't fare as well if catching this. So a great way to help yourself is loose the flab, but people won't, that would involve taking responsibility for yourself rather than the gov doing it for you.

I can only presume OP is in the north somewhere. This has been going on in London for weeks. Who cares - as long as people are doing what they are comfortable with in terms of social distancing (or not), what the neighbours get up to is their affair.