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Are some parents just never going to send their children back?

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thewheelsonthebus23 · 16/05/2020 17:27

It seems to me that it’s going to take an awful lot to change some parents’ minds on sending their children to school. We may still be in this position come September. On some Facebook groups and articles the comments are astonishing.
Someone said parents who send their children back are dicing with death. And another said something along the lines of ‘if these parents care about their children, they won’t be sending them in’.

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cantkeepawayforever · 16/05/2020 21:45

There are some parents who can't send their children back, because their children are shielded.

There is no exit plan at all for these children at the moment - for some, they will have to be shielded until there is herd immunity via vaccine or naturally, because being vaccinated themselves will be too risky.

GinghamStyle · 16/05/2020 22:05

I really don’t see why everyone is so obsessed with what everyone else is doing. Every family’s circumstances are different - just do what’s right for your family.

Redwinestillfine · 16/05/2020 22:26

Well said @Ginghamstyle

Abbccc · 16/05/2020 23:25

Oh yes, I agree with you flamegame.

The80sweregreat · 16/05/2020 23:46

I'm not in the position of having to make any decisions about children ( thank goodness) but someone on the daily mail comments page made a good one 'will William and Kate be sending them back ?'
I'd bet my last fiver they won't ( plus it's a private school and they break up end of June anyway I suppose'!) .. even so I bet it comes out they are being home schooled now. The rich rarely lead by example.

I would not have a clue what to do , but I would be scared as I just don't trust this government to get it right. Just look at how the residents in care homes are being treated and the poor staff there.
It would be a dilemma for me for sure.

Concerned7777 · 16/05/2020 23:52

I'll be sending my dc back as soon as school opens whenever that maybe. All those set on September are they so deluded that they think it's going to be "-back to normal " and risk free by then? Unless a vaccine miraculously appears then Is it fuck! Those keeping their precious poppets home until its "safe" and slating every one else as irresponsible now wonder how many of them will turn in Sept and demand their dc go back to school when in reality its entirely possible that not much is any different to it is now.

Concerned7777 · 16/05/2020 23:56

Lol @flamegame I'm enjoying not handing money over to school each week for 1 thing or another but I think where I'm saving money from school in 1 hand I'm giving it back out to Tesco with the other. My god these kids do not ever stop filling their faces!

NeverTwerkNaked · 17/05/2020 00:01

The mums on my Facebook groups who are saying they won't "risk their children's lives" by sending them to school are the same group of mums (sometimes the same threads) who are arranging to meet up for drinks in the park/back gardens regularly now! And driving their kids long distances for a trip to the beach.

Alymcnabs · 17/05/2020 00:04

My DS and DD say they will send their children back to school once the Govt return to Parliament. Fair enough!

I suspect that most parents won’t send their children back in June and Boris/Drakeford/Sturgeon will make a rule that grandparents can now care for their grandchildren so parents can return to work.

That’s what I’m hoping for. Gosh I’ve missed my grandchildren 😥

NeverTwerkNaked · 17/05/2020 00:06

And yes a lot of them seem to think this is all going to to magically back to normal in September. So I think they are settling in for a long summer holiday (they are sahm or furloughed) and so this is just a damn good excuse.

Concerned7777 · 17/05/2020 00:06

@never probably same mums 1st in the pub when it opens behind me of course and those taking them to soft play or cinema or even McDonald's when they re open

NeverTwerkNaked · 17/05/2020 00:07

@concerned yes it's the same ones that were all planning big group outings to soft play the first week after the schools closed (before lockdown scuppered their plans)

NeverTwerkNaked · 17/05/2020 00:09

And that's fine. But the rhetoric of sending children to their deaths is what I have an objection to as
a) it isn't true; and
b ) many people have to send their children still

Mumoftwo0357 · 17/05/2020 00:09

Of course not. I’m not against sending them back I just think it’s far too early and the right measures aren’t in place yet. I have no confidence the r rate don’t rocket back up right now. Once the measures are in place and things look consistently stable and safe I’ll happily send them back. I’ve been looking at guidance from all science at home and internationally not just the governments pet advisors

Mumoftwo0357 · 17/05/2020 00:10

Just add I support those who di send theirs in. It’s your choice and I don’t judge it.

Parker231 · 17/05/2020 00:11

Employers will soon start to want their employees back in the workplace so unless the parents are planning on giving up their jobs, their DC’s will have to go back to school.

Mumoftwo0357 · 17/05/2020 00:14

@NeverTwerkNaked

That’s crazy and hypocritical. I’m keeping mine home but I haven’t mixed with anyone or gone anywhere for two months. I’m vulnerable.

I don’t object to others sending children to school. Can’t be doing with that competitive judgey nonsense.

We’re all struggling in different ways and all have to do what’s best for our unique situation.

Derbygerbil · 17/05/2020 00:14

Apparently parents won’t be fined for not sending children back in June... I’m happy to send mine back, but think this is sensible in the circumstances.

Mumoftwo0357 · 17/05/2020 00:15

@GinghamStyle I 100% agree with you.

NeverTwerkNaked · 17/05/2020 00:18

No judgment at all from me for parents who send their children into school .

I am WFH so have told school I can keep yr 1 DD at home if they teach her remotely but if they can't do that then she will have to go in because (quite rightly) my employer will lose sympathy with the situation if it is one of my choosing.

NeverTwerkNaked · 17/05/2020 00:20

(I don't think there is any real risk to my children. No greater than the one they face every day going into a school full of food they are anaphylactic to. But I am prepared to indulge the fears of teachers and keep her home if the teachers will do the teaching bit for me- properly)

flamegame · 17/05/2020 07:20

@Concerned7777 oh yes, the crazy demand for snacks! At least some offers are back now on snack foods...

Lonelymum11 · 17/05/2020 08:08

but someone on the daily mail comments page made a good one 'will William and Kate be sending them back ?'
I'd bet my last fiver they won't ( plus it's a private school and they break up end of June anyway I suppose'!) .. even so I bet it comes out they are being home schooled now. The rich rarely lead by example.

Since William and Kate aren't the one opening the schools, nor have they come out and urged people to send their children back, they don't have to lead by example.

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