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Weddings this year - what’s everyone else doing?

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tigerbear · 15/05/2020 12:17

I am due to get married on 11th July, but have resigned myself to the fact that it’s not going to happen then.

Just interested to hear what everyone else is doing regarding making other plans.

DP wants to try for later this year, but I don’t think it’s worth trying to plan anything at all for later this year, based on:

all of our parents are over 70 (his are nearly 90), all with underlying health conditions
one of his best men will have a newborn from August, and I don’t think he and his wife would realistically be able to come
my bridesmaid lives in HK and has already said she’s not happy to travel to UK even to see her own family at Christmas (people in HK are appalled at the UK’s handling of the crisis, she’s horrified by our numbers and that the majority of people go out without masks etc)
all my family live 5 hours away, so would need to travel and book into hotels
our guest list is approx 70 people

I honestly don’t think it’s realistic for us to even try to plan something this year.
What’s everyone else doing?

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Gemzee · 15/05/2020 12:22

I was due to attend 2 weddings in August this year and both have been postponed until next year. I can't realistically see weddings (as they used to be) happening for a long long time - imo.

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tigerbear · 15/05/2020 12:54

@Gemzee this is my concern.
Even if lockdown is eased, I can’t see us being able to go ahead with the kind of wedding we’d planned.

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UnfinishedSenten · 15/05/2020 13:22

We were due to get married Saturday just gone. We postponed the beginning of March the venue offered us a date for later this year or sameish date for next. We chose next year. I just felt that a lot of measures would still be in place and tbh I'm a bit shakey over next years date too.
I hope you get the day you've planned though.

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tigerbear · 15/05/2020 14:33

@UnfinishedSenten do you mind me asking which month you’ve chosen for next year?
We’re thinking of April at the earliest...

I called the registrars office this week to ask what the deal is regarding transferring an existing marriage licence from one date to another, and they didn’t have a clue.

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UnfinishedSenten · 15/05/2020 15:10

May, so due to marry 9th May 2020 but we've switched it to 8th May 2021.
In regards to the fees, they switched it over no charge but £18 to pay due to the new tax year? Or something along those lines. I will try to find the email.
We had our notice to marry cancelled but they refunded that.

UnfinishedSenten · 15/05/2020 15:13

@tigerbear this is rugby though so uncertain if different registry offices have different rules?

Weddings this year - what’s everyone else doing?

ElphiasDoge · 15/05/2020 16:02

Of the 4 weddings we had this year

One postponed from June to September
One postponed from June to October
One postponed from May to May 2021
One postponed from October to October 2021.

user1519475227 · 15/05/2020 16:05

4 wedding we were due to attend

1- April - August 20
2 - April - unknown new date yet
3 - May - Sept 20
4 - June - March 21 but will.still go ahead with the church service if possible with a limited number of family

Glendaruel · 15/05/2020 16:09

We're reviewing at end of May for our August wedding. Registrar said date is in her diary and paperwork doesn't need to go in until a month beforehand so there is flexibility.

BeyondDreamsOfBeyondFourWalls · 15/05/2020 16:11

Ours is at what would have been the beginning of the summer holidays. At the moment, it's not yet officially cancelled, and we're happy to go ahead with minimal guests if that is an option by then.

I'm shielding and planning my wedding to be the only time I cross my threshold for the foreseeable.

We'll move the reception to a later date.

DianaT1969 · 15/05/2020 16:14

Not getting married, but if I was, I'd definitely have a small outdoor wedding. Probably with a tipi as shelter as they lift up around the sides, whereas marquees don't (to my knowledge). Although I'm sure you could ask for marquees to have more openings for ventilation I expect. This summer is such a difficult situation for anyone trying to get married. Full of compromise.

Drivingdownthe101 · 15/05/2020 16:16

We were due to go to three this year and all have been postponed until next year.
One from April this year to April next year.
One from June this year to March next year.
One from September this year to May next year.

harper30 · 15/05/2020 16:17

We moved ours from August this year to July next year, I'm still a bit worried that such large gatherings might not be allowed next year either to be honest. We were inviting 140 and I feel like that might not be allowed still :/

MidsomerMum · 15/05/2020 16:30

Was due to go to one at the beginning of April which has been postponed until November. I think the bride and groom are going to get married in a registry office as soon as they can though and the November wedding will be a party that they know may be a bit quiet.

Summerflowers79 · 15/05/2020 16:30

I am not getting married until June 2021 but worried even about that date for fear of a second wave?

Ginqueen456 · 15/05/2020 16:35

I was due to get married on the 23rd of this month. Our venue called and told us to rearrange in march. Originally they gave me a January date but the longer this has gone on for the less likely it seems we will be able to do it then either and that was pretty much confirmed by my venue when I called them last week. So we have now rearranged for march.

Ohjustme · 15/05/2020 17:04

I'm due to get married 25th July. It's a tiny wedding with only 13 people including us. We were planning on a meal afterwards but would be happy if we could get married and do the meal anotber time. My future MIL has said we can have some sort of party in her garden which is I'd actually love. I need to lodge notice around the 20th of June. The councils website hasn't been updated since the 23rd April but aren't accepting notices just now so that will be the decider.

snidgetowl · 15/05/2020 17:14

We're due to get married 24th October - haven't postponed yet but the longer this goes on the more uneasy I feel about it. It's difficult to know when would be the best time to rearrange if we were to move it. Another wedding we were due to attend this year has moved from the beginning of August to May next year.

Lyricallie · 15/05/2020 17:18

We've reached our May wedding to 31/10/2020. Hopefully it'll happen but realistic that it might be next year.

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tigerbear · 17/05/2020 11:05

@UnfinishedSenten thanks for posting that.
Our registrar has since emailed back to say we can move the licence, but I’ve not heard back from my venue yet for alternative dates for next year.

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Lelly0503 · 17/05/2020 11:12

We have moved from sept this year to sept next year. Luckily our venue have been really good and gave us a new date no issues. September might be okay for small gatherings but with some restrictions and we didn’t want to risk not knowing what they might be x

Shockers · 17/05/2020 11:17

Our county has cancelled all wedding registry services until September. Churches and celebrant officiated weddings might be different though.

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