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When do you think you will next see older family?

19 replies

Hadenoughfornow · 14/05/2020 14:30

I mean inside and giving them a hug?

It surely can't happen for a very long time. If its not safe for kids to go to school then it's not safe to expose older family members who are higher risk to them?

And we can't just go and wave to them through a window or say hello when dropping off shopping.

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Elmerrrrrrrr · 14/05/2020 14:31

Define older

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Hadenoughfornow · 14/05/2020 14:32

Not just older but vulnerable relatives too.

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Hadenoughfornow · 14/05/2020 14:36

Well for me personally it is over 70.

But I really can't see how it's safe for us to mix at all for a very long time. If we don't want to risk any infections.

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daisypond · 14/05/2020 14:39

Next year maybe.

Laiste · 14/05/2020 14:49

Well - my mum, 84 - probably in about 5 mins. She lives with us.

PIL? No idea.
They are 2 hours away. They are shielding. Lovely house and garden, retired, and SIL (lives nearby) is delivering shopping. They are only just 70 and both physically fit as in able to walk miles, but MIL has a messy medical history and they have decided to stay in for the foreseeable. It will be their decision when they decide they want to mix again. MIL loves a massive family 'do' at hers. (We've missed 2 occasions over lock down where there would have been one.) I believe the length of this shielding depends upon how long she can bear the lack of 'do's ! FIL seems perfectly happy ...

110APiccadilly · 14/05/2020 15:07

As soon as I can. There is a very real possibility that lockdown might mean I never see my gran again (she has a fairly good chance of dying at any point from the about 6 different things wrong with her); once the opportunity arises you bet I'll be seeing her. Yes, that means a small risk she'll get CV19 from me. But she would rather see me and take the risk. I'm not going to try telling her how to live the last months or years of her life.

Missfelipe · 14/05/2020 16:13

My parents are in their early sixties and have moved my elderly grandmother in with them in a rather extreme and hasty manner...I don’t think either of them realises this means no one will be visiting them (they are a few hours away from us all) until there is either treatment or a vaccine while she lives with them...they might not be sticking to the guidance but we certainly will be 😞

bluebeck · 14/05/2020 16:16

Not until there is a vaccine/perfect treatment plan/something else in place that means I could be sure I wasn't signing their death warrant.

I have two older aunts. One lives right on the beach and is coping just fine. The other lives with her young adult GC and is also fine.

I think it must be much harder for those who have older rellies who are struggling.

cologne4711 · 14/05/2020 16:54

I am going to see if I can meet my mum somewhere where we can go for a walk and a chat and get a takeaway coffee. She is 3 hours away so we need to find somewhere in the middle to meet. Clearly we can't go and stay with each other for a while.

Camomila · 14/05/2020 17:41

My parents are 57 and 64. Dad is wfh and mum is still doing the supermarket shop, they go for walks/cycles.
In my house DH is wfh and I'm on mat leave. DS1 probably won't be going back to nursery this term.
They are happy to have us as soon as allowed (we live 10mins drive away)

I'm 90% sure my DBro, me, and both my DSs caught it between beginning to end of March from paramedic DBro. Hopefully he'll get an antibody test soonish.

My nonna is 87 and lives in Northern Italy, the first day lockdown was lifted she went to visit her 85(?) year old sister in the next village. I don't blame her at all.

AgeLikeWine · 14/05/2020 17:41

When it’s safe to do so.

taptonaria27 · 14/05/2020 17:44

Dad's in a care home. I genuinely have no idea when I might see him again (or possibly whether).

Hibbetyhob · 14/05/2020 17:46

My parents are only early 60s. We plan to see them in the summer hols after self isolating for 2 weeks first.

After that, who knows?

BikeRunSki · 14/05/2020 17:52

I don’t know, but my mum is 77, widowed, lives by herself 5-6 hours away and very lonely. I can’t wait to see her.

Rover83 · 14/05/2020 17:54

My parents are mid 60's and still currently both working full time. My honest answer is I will see them whenever they feel ready. My mum looked after my kids once a week before lockdown so we are missing her dreadfully but I will absolutely not put any pressure on them about it at all, they can come to us or invite us over as soon as they are ready.

Bananasandorangesss · 14/05/2020 17:56

I have started seeing my widowed mum properly this week but we’ve both likely had CV

80sMum · 14/05/2020 18:00

MIL is in her 90s and is 3hrs drive away. She sees people every day but I doubt she's had a hug in the past 12 weeks or so. 😢

I really can't see us being allowed to visit for several more weeks, unfortunately.

Tangledyarn · 14/05/2020 18:04

Realistically I'll see my parents (both early 70s) in about a month, but Its 95% that I've had CV and both our households have been pretty much isolating for the whole time so I'm not too worried.

WhiteChocTwix · 14/05/2020 18:11

@taptonaria27 I'm in the same situation. Dad in a care home, not seen him since March. It's so sad. How are you managing? We video call and text most days but it's not the same as popping in for a coffee and a gossip. DM is on her own and very depressed. 😢

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