Can I move house for one week?

[HJ40]

Please don't flame me for this, I'm trying to do the right thing, and I just don't know what to do.

DH & I have both been working from home. Toddler DS is normally at full time nursery and has also been at home. I'm pregnant so we've been fortunate to be able to get grocery deliveries. All shopping has been washed or quarantined before being used. We've been out for walks but nothing else.

So I think we're as isolated as we could ever possibly be.

DM lives three hours away, is 70+ and has a lung condition. She has also been isolating.

My quandary is that nursery is reopening on 1st June and our employers will expect us back to normal hours (albeit from home) so DS will have to go back. However once that happens, we can't possibly then visit DM because of the risks of transmission. And who knows how long for? Months at least?

I'm trying to work out if there's any way we can go there for e.g. one week before nursery goes back. DH and I can work from there. The best I can find is that people can move e.g. students back to parents.

The irony is, DM and I will probably end up arguing if we're there for so long, but it's about allowing DS and her time together. I'd ideally go for just a night! But wonder is it any more permissible if it's for longer?

There are no other siblings involved so there's no additional mixing, it's a closed circle, if you see what I mean.

I don't know what to do, but I feel like if I don't go soon, I don't know when we'll safely be able to again.

(Sorry that's got quite lengthy, thank you if you've read it)

I’d go providing you’re all symptom free.

Boris was stupid not mentioning loved ones and close friends in his speech. None of us know what will happen. Go and be with yours for a week before you can’t.

This is exactly why I saw my parents yesterday! We've also isolated/quarantined with the same precautions you have taken for weeks, as have they. My husband is expected back at work soon and once that happens I feel the risk of seeing them is too high and I have no idea when we will be able to do it in a way that isn't such a closed circle. It's safer to me now so in your case I would do it.

Thank you. I'm so conflicted about what's best here.

Just do what you want
Your plan makes sense and if your mum is happy too, then why not?
If you need it to be entirely legal, I'm not sure it is. Changing households is, but you would be doing that knowing it was temporary.

I think technically you're not allowed. But I completely see your logic, and am wondering similar things myself.

Apply common sense. The idea of the restrictions is to minimise spread but maintaining mental health is important. I would do the same.

How much time do DS and her spend together normally. Is he missing her?

I too would absolutely go, for all the reasons already mentioned.

Sounds very sensible; just go. It may be a long time before you can see her again and this opportunity, before your DS resumes nursery should be taken.

My mum & I have been discussing this as well. She’s also vulnerable. We’ve been at home bar a walk a few times a week in a rural area. Had food deliveries. Haven’t been washing food boxes to be fair but we have a newborn & a 3 year old so I barely have time to wash myself 🥴

My mum lives locally, so debating fully isolating for a couple weeks & then letting DD & my newborn visit for a week at the end of May.. I feel it’ll only get riskier for my mum as we begin to return to a bit of normality and then who knows when we can see her until there’s a vaccine or decent anti-vitals..

Boris does keep saying to use common sense 🤷🏼‍♀️

I would.

I guess it’s not strictly allowed but my dd is in reception. My mum phoned yesterday are being sent over to hospital with a suspected dvt. I’m worried she will be dead of natural causes before I can see her again.

In my case my mums in and out of hospital so I am not posing a risk. Weeks until dd starts school and I’m working on the assumption the teachers will strike so a two week quarantine for a very unlikely return to school.

Thank you. I'd forgotten the common sense element of the PM's talk in the Commons the other day. This seems sensible to me, but it's open to interpretation which is the problem with relying on common sense! Hence it's very helpful to gauge other opinions.

We would normally meet every three weeks. We've continued Zoom calls as normal. I honestly couldn't say if he's missing her, but she is him. It's been 2.5 months since we met and we're not desperate to see each other right now, but it's the matter of perhaps not being able to for even longer once he's back at nursery.