Any Other Brides to be Effected by Coronavirus?

[MintGreenLife]

Hi all.

I'm hoping to find people going through the same thing, and help others find people to talk to about this...

I'm due to get married early September, and was hoping the update last night might give as an indication as to whether we should postpone or not, but am left feeling just as confused as before.

At the moment it's looking like an early September wedding with 100 guests won't be likely to go ahead, but there's nothing solid in place right now, so it's difficult to know what to do.

When this first started I knew we might have to postpone, but now two months later we are no closer to knowing what we are doing and it's safe to say my anxiety levels are on the up :(

My partner and I have come up with a back up plan to start TTC if we can't go ahead with the wedding, so I came off the pill about a month ago (using other protection for now until we know what we are doing). I know I will feel so much better when we can finally make a decision and either push on with wedding plans or start TTC and aim for a registry office wedding when ceremonies can go ahead again, not really sure how much longer I can hang on now as is causing a lot of stress and worry.

Anyone else going through something similar? Would love to chat to someone about it xx

We are supposed to be getting married at the end of July. Small wedding. I'm now at the point where I wish the venue would just end the uncertainty and tell us they are cancelling. We can't cancel as we would lose all the money we've paid but the "maybes" and "what ifs" are killing us. I would like to just know so we can start planning again.

Hi. My case is a bit different as I was due to get married in June and obviously it definitely won't be happening. However, I didn't know that back at the start of all this. I was so stressed not knowing what to do. I chose to rearrange fairly early on due to the fact that thousands of people are in the same boat and I thought I'd struggle to get a decent date. Also I didn't want a wedding where half the guests couldn't come and the other half didn't want to be there. I managed to rearrange until April 2021. I actually got the last available Saturday at my venue. The stress disappeared immediately! It's sad but I have a new date to look forward to. We were really lucky. All the suppliers and our wedding insurance were happy to move the date, so we haven't lost any money.

My advice to you is don't wait too long to make a decision. I felt much better as soon as I had a clear plan!

Hi @annonymousse,

Oh gosh that's so frustrating!! Also probably even more stressful as your date is much sooner than mine. From what I understood ceremonies seemed to be put on hold until end of July, but might have got that wrong. I did see on a BBC news announcement this morning that the government have said they know people want to know what is happening with ceremonies, celebrations etc, and that they will be addressing this in 'due course', so I guess at least they are aware they need to say something about weddings, but who knows when we will get an update.

What area of the country are you getting married in? Our wedding is in Shropshire. The government are meant to release a 50 page doc today at 2pm, so you never know, there could be some info in there x

Hi @Purplequalitystreet,

Thanks for your advice :) that's how I'm feeling really - even if we can have the day legally, do I really want people to be nervous, or maybe not even attend because they are worried, not really :( think it would be such a weird vibe if people are worried about hugging or dancing too close etc.

When this first kicked off I emailed all our suppliers and almost everyone confirmed they would allow us to move our date should we need, so that's good. Think we've made our situation even more complex by deciding to TTC instead if we can't do the wedding, but I feel like I have to do something to move forward, whether that's wedding or baby, does that make sense?

Sounds like you've dealt with this really well. I know I will feel so much better if/when we decide to postpone, but it's just working out when to do that and how long we hang on for :/ it's driving me a bit mad to be honest x

We are/were getting married at Gretna Green and honeymoon later to South Africa. We were hoping because it's such a small wedding it would be able to go ahead but after the update yesterday we are just waiting for the email or phone all to say it can't go ahead. We are already resigned that the honeymoon will be delayed. Hope by September things will be better. A friend of mine has rearranged her April wedding to October. Who knew when we named the date that this would be happening. It's very disappointing but not the end of the world I guess. But I was so looking forward to it 😭

@annonymousse I hope you get an update soon so you know what you are doing. It's the unknown and waiting that's so difficult isn't it :(

There's a lot of speculation that indoor gatherings such as weddings could be off until next year, I just wish they would give us some kind of straight answer or at least an idea of how this might impact July weddings and onwards as leaving it all means probably more money lost etc. I don't know about you but I can't bring myself to do any planning at all now. I can't even look at anything wedding related or even let myself think about it at all. Not how I expected wedding planning to be, even that alone makes me feel like it's better to try again next year and actually enjoy it x

Agree I'm the same. Wedding? What wedding? 🙈🙉🙊.

Hello are you me? :)

Exactly the same conundrum except we haven't started the alternative TTC conversation yet.

We haven't planned anything wedding related since February so currently in no man's land. I want to postpone now, DP wants to wait it out.

@annonymousse Really not a nice headspace to be in :( wishing you all the best and hope you manage to find a solution that you are happy with x

@Elbels I knew there would be lots of people feeling the same!

Ah that's so tough that you're both feeling differently about it at the mo. I'm thinking we will most likely have to postpone if I'm honest, and thankfully my partner agrees. Just think it would be such a shame if it legally can go ahead, and then you have guests feeling anxious. I've even read that some people are saying weddings may be able to go ahead, but with social distancing in place, wearing masks, no kissing etc, can you imagine how strange that would be?

Do you have an idea of some kind of plan-B in place? This has helped a little I think. Our vague plan-B is to focus on TTC instead, have a registry office when we can, have a small gathering to celebrate with our immediate families (just 10 people including us) and then rearrange the 'wedding' dependant on when we get pregnant etc.

I had a wedding book which I was picking up everyday at one point. I now haven't looked at it in months. Just cannot bring myself to do it :(

I should be getting married in August in Hebrides, but islands are all locked down at moment. We've said we will wait to the of May then review it with venue. I'm also 11 week pregnant, so don't know what kind of dress to buy, maternity if scan goes ok and date go ahead, or something for next year!!!

Huge congrats on the pregnancy! We are thinking similar - we were going to leave it until early June and then go from there, but I'm not sure if I can hang on that long at the moment. There's so many ifs and buts and just waiting around hanging on the governments every move, getting kind of exhausting! Hope you manage to figure out what you're going to do and that you're happy with your final decision x