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I need to see my family

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thewheelsonthebus23 · 09/05/2020 15:34

When are we going to be allowed to see close family? I can’t go on with this much longer.
We are okay to go to a busy supermarket or garden centre and touch things that other people have touched too, but we can’t go to one household and spend time with family members who haven’t seen anyone else (except shopping trips) and the same with us.

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Elmerrrrrrrr · 09/05/2020 15:35

I've seen my mum and sister and will continue to do so. Tbh a lot of people I know have seen their close family.

Whatsuppp · 09/05/2020 15:36

Yes I also have visited parents and sisters. If not my mental health would have taken a massive dip, and they felt the same. To be honest I have been going to work and I work with my sister anyway.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 09/05/2020 15:38

Can you just sit on their driveway/front path? Take a flask of coffee with you. They can sit on their doorstep.

dollface19 · 09/05/2020 15:38

It's starting to be a BS thing! I know u gotta protect people which we would but it's getting a joke now people are making up their own rules and judging their own risks!

It seems lockdown rule about not seeing anyone was for the utterly stupid people who can't make common sense judgments and don't know the difference! But instead we are all tarred with the same brush !

doublemix · 09/05/2020 15:39

I went and visited my partents for the first time in 8 weeks yesterday with my 2 DC. They have been isolating and so have we so I assessed the risk as very small we sat in the garden for an hour and it did all of us the world of good. I would do it again and probably will if there is an extension this weekend.

Northernsoullover · 09/05/2020 15:39

I've seen my family. I take their shopping up and sit in the garden.

TheCountessatHotelCortez · 09/05/2020 15:41

I’ve contemplated going to see my parents from a distance in their garden with my 3 DC but I have younger sisters as well and I can’t guarantee my kids will stay away from them so I haven’t been but would sorely love to 😞

SqidgeBum · 09/05/2020 15:43

I havent seen my family since the first week in February. They live in Ireland. I am facing another 2 months (best guess) at least before I can even think about seeing them.

If you went and saw your parents, I would not blame you in the slightest. I would be sitting in my Moms garden right now if I could.

Angel2702 · 09/05/2020 15:43

I have seen mine on driveways dropping shopping off or speaking whilst passing on a walk but I’m getting desperate for proper interaction. We usually all see each other every day, share meals every weekend, share childcare between us.

Yesterday I really missed them we would usually have all celebrated together. My Mum came passed on a walk and I just wanted her to come and join in with our celebrations.

Elmerrrrrrrr · 09/05/2020 15:44

I am taking my ds to stay with my mum next week in fact. We don't have a garden, our flat is tiny and we are at breaking point tbh. I am also trying to work full time. Mum has been furloughed and lives in a house with a garden

user764329056 · 09/05/2020 15:44

Have sat in garden with daughter and grandkids, maintaining distance and no touching, for first time in 8 weeks, live alone and hadn’t seen a soul, I couldn’t take it anymore

Delta1 · 09/05/2020 15:45

I wouldn't blame you either. As long as you are all comfortable with it, then you've got to do what's right for you at this point. I suspect Boris will announce that it's ok to do so on Sunday anyway.

TheCountessatHotelCortez · 09/05/2020 15:48

Oh and just to add I’m in Scotland so visiting anyone isn’t likely anytime soon 😢

FlibbertyGiblets · 09/05/2020 15:50

I think your family are some hours journey away, thewheelsonthebus23? It is very hard, try to keep your chin up.

GoGadgetGo · 09/05/2020 16:02

Go and see your family, but be safe whilst doing so. Keep your distance and stay outside,

Thelittleweasel · 09/05/2020 16:12

While we would all - no doubt - agree everything suggested is against the government guidelines and will - we are told - increase the period of lockdown and contribute to any spread of the disease. With young children it is appallingly difficult to stop them running up to people

In these days we can see others on computers.

marblesgoing · 09/05/2020 16:13

We've seen my dparents at their gates when we've walked past in the evenings or if they've dropped something to the door they then stand behind the gate and we chat.
Same with in laws.

It's why I'm not too tolerant of both sets going on about coming over to sit in our garden after Sunday because it's not as if they don't see us.

A lot of people live miles away from family and it's them I feel for.

Drivingdownthe101 · 09/05/2020 16:15

I see my mum from the end of her drive about twice a week. 5m away. My 6 and 4 year olds know they can’t get any closer, and my 1 year old stays in his pushchair so no danger of anyone getting too close.

Catsmother1 · 09/05/2020 16:15

We are the same as you. Family are not nearby, but would love to have a coffee with my friend, who is alone. But we don’t break rules, so are patiently waiting for the green light. But also not sure how long I can stick to the rules when I see and hear other people breaking them. Can’t Boris just say we can see a couple of friends/family?!

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thewheelsonthebus23 · 09/05/2020 16:15

Sorry I should have explained better in the original post. They live in Essex and I live in Yorkshire. We have gone to my in laws and waved from the window. They would have come into the garden with us, but we were worried about our 18 month DS wanting to run up and cuddle them.

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Rafflesway · 09/05/2020 16:16

I know exactly how you feel, OP. ☹️

Our adult dd has severe learning difficulties and lives in a supported living complex, in her own apartment with 24 hour care, 25 mins drive from us.

We haven’t seen her since Mothers’ Day as the centre is on minimum 12 week lockdown. We daren’t even Skype or phone her as she is like a 3 year old and doesn’t understand any of this. It would distress her far too much! She is very confused as to why Mummy and Daddy haven’t been to see her or why she can’t phone. Her care team - who are fantastic and love her massively - tell her we are poorly and that we have to wait for the doctor to say it is ok for us to come and see her again. (We normally visit 4 times per week.). Thankfully the carers speak to us regularly.

It is torture! 😢

Drivingdownthe101 · 09/05/2020 16:18

IL’s live in Spain though so god knows when we will see them. We were booked to go over for the first time in 3 years (for various reasons, the last two trips had to be cancelled due to DC being ill) in July.

Bol87 · 09/05/2020 16:25

My parents are shielding but I do stop for a chat when dropping shopping off or walking past on my daily walk! It’s not the same but at least it’s a natter.. saddest thing is my parents haven’t yet met my 7 week old daughter 😢 thankfully it’s the second grandchild but also will be their last as I’m an only child & won’t be having anymore due to severe hyperemesis in both pregnancies! It’s so sad they won’t get to enjoy her during the baby stage 😢

If lockdown is looking like being extended for months more, I think we will genuinely go move in with our in-laws for a bit. They are a 4 hour drive away but we are struggling with a very unsettled, colic ALL day newborn, hyper toddler & my other half working from home in a job that’s pretty stressful, busy & requires there not to be screaming in the background on the calls he makes 😰 we just need some support & frankly, a bit of breather! Even an hour without a screaming baby & tantruming toddler would be amazing! We will isolate first and then isolate at the other end!

EasyLifer · 09/05/2020 16:39

Marblesgoing, I agree about feeling sorry for people who live a long way from family, they are at a far greater disadvantage in this situation.

I know several people who have never stopped seeing family if they are within walking distance, they pop round every couple of days and chat from the driveway with a couple of tins of soup in a carrier bag in case the lockdown police question their visit!

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