Dunno where to post this but help please!

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Due in July, no one I know is social distancing at all. In laws are coming over from a different county in a few weeks they had my daughter last time when I was in labour, was fine no coronavirus around then but I feel stuck. Have really bad ocd and haven't seen Anyone since the lockdown, do my shopping online. 😩 really don't know what to do With my two whilst I'm in labour, their dad has been staying with us and been helping but he wants to be at the birth with me. Do I just have the baby on my own and let him watch the his kids?

I think they have just bought in a rule that anyone visiting the UK has to be in isolation for 14 days now. Your midwife will advise you about dad being there at the birth. Do you have your own family that can look after the other two? Why aren't people you know social distancing?

A lot of people are leaving there kids with their mother in laws etc in this situation. You say they are coming in a couple of weeks but you are not due to July, can you get them to isolate/socially distance for two weeks when they get here? Maybe tell your partner that if they don’t you won’t be happy with your kids seeing them and he’s not coming to the birth.

The op said county not country.

I think we might be a little more relaxed by july.

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Meant country ! Sorry it's this phone but they will be social distancing for two weeks it's just when that's up they're going to go see all their friends and stuff

And no I literally have my mum but she's going here there and everywhere and lol because pellle are silly

I don't mind if he's there or not if I'm honest done it twice already know what to expect! It's my other kids being safe that I'm bothered about

Oh sorry!

I think if you don’t mind and nothing has changed then go yourself.

I would . It's my kids if he's going to see his parents that will be coming from a different country and seeing people when they're here it puts him at risk which will put my kids at risk

Is there a particular health issue one of the kids has?

I do think we are talking slightly at cross purposes, I meant go to have the baby yourself, but if they do the 14 day isolation after they arrive and he observes hygiene measures I can’t see that being much of a risk. Many many people with children are still going to work in customer facing roles every day.

And sorry if we are still at cross purposes here...

Yeah I guess so ..

And no there's no health issues but they do get ill very fast

A bit confused, your husband doesn't live with you ? So the in-laws coming to look after the baby will stay with him ? or do they plan to stay with you ? if they plan to stay with you will they quarantine with you or have other family ? Seems absolutely barking to have someone quarantine with you, so what is going on with who stays with who ?

@AppearingNormal I'm sorry lol, right he doesn't usually live with me no, he lives in his mums house but his mum and other siblings are in a different country right now, his mum is coming over from that country in a few weeks with his siblings. They will self quarantine for 2 weeks regardless cause they got to and after the two weeks is up they're probably going to go see everyone I.e friends/ family, but this is in their own home where my partner usually stays. My partner has been in my home for the past few months since lockdown and not seen anyone, they're not coming to specificity look after my baby they do for a holiday each year, finding it selfish right now because it's not essential travel. They had my daughter last time I was in labour but this time it's two daughters instead of the one, but because they won't be self isolating it's putting me in a difficult situation, I don't mind having this baby on my own if I have to it's the fact of my other kids being around people who haven't self isolated and feeling bad for my partner not seeing his mum/ siblings

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Ah I get it now

Don’t feel bad for him, many millions of people aren’t seeing their parents or siblings.

So he stays at yours, doesn’t see them cos at present it’s illegal to go see them despite anything else, has the girls and you go have the baby.

Of course by July things could be a bit different but right now that’s what should happen.

If you do go in by yourself what’s the likelihood of your partner not seeing his parents before, during or after the birth. Unless he promises to shield or at least social distance from his parents for the foreseeable future it’s not going to make any difference.

Sorry it is abit confusing I know and I guess but only seemed like the other day I found out I was pregnant, times flys I would rather think ahead, and I wouldn't if they lived in the uk it's the fact they're coming from a different one and he doesn't get to see his parents that much anyway, but then I see it as why are they coming in a time like this, their travel is not essential it's a ' holiday ' for them because they are not working and are bored and don't want to be lonely 🤦🏻‍♀️

@mum11970 his parents only come to the uk for a few months anyway but I get what you're saying it's just I'm trying to protect myself and my kids as much as I can from a virus that's killing healthy people as well as people with health conditions

I don't mind him seeing them from afar but I live a hour away from their house anyway, be easier to FaceTime lol, his mum would want to hug us all and stuff which I don't blame her, but she's very religious and is like ' if you get corona it was meant to happen ' type thing