What’s doing your head in during lockdown?

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Lighthearted! Or semi-lighthearted anyway...

I’m not talking about the big obvious things eg unable to see family, shopping etc. I’m talking about the little foibles of your family/partner/neighbours etc.

I mean I could write a book but my main ones are:

• constant fucking podcasts! My husband is obsessed with podcasts and I feel like there is constant tinny talking that follows him around the house. Harmless but hiiighly irritating.

• the regularity with which my (fairly newly potty trained) two year old needs to pee. Every time I sit down to eat. I can’t eat a meal without having to get up to wipe an arse. Or so it feels anyway. I’d never let on obviously but I inwardly roll my eyes every time.

• six year old constantly asking to commandeer my phone.

My teen who can't seem to find the kitchen bin, next door's hot tub, loud irritating phone calls, constant music and "Alexa!" every 2 minutes like they're the only people that live in our housing estate!!! Just Fuck. Off. Feel much better now!

The constant cheeriness of lockdown adverts and people on tv saying "we're all in it together" does my head in !!!

Oh god yes the video calls. My mum will call me at the most annoying times, and then say "God you look tired" or "you look washed out". No mum, this is just me without make up because YOU'VE CALLED AT FUCKING 8AM. And yes I'm tired because I AM SPINNING ALL THE PLATES.

DH moaning about work constantly (he works from home) and me having no escape apart from going for a walk.

Adult dd making a mess and because I can't be arsed with keep nagging about it I end up picking up after her just to keep the peace (she's moved in for lockdown)

Not seeing my young adult DS as he is still working in a different city and can't come home at weekends like he normally does.

Reading the local fb page full of people moaning and slagging everyone off. Seriously, it won't change their behaviour so why let it wind you up? (I've removed the page from my feed now)

The constant ads on the telly showing everyone having so much fun during video calls are doing my head in. On one last night a couple were dancing with fairy lights wrapped around them and obviously having the best time ever swing lockdown. I just looked at them and thought they are going to feel a right pair of idiots once the zoom call has finished and they unravel the lights and look at each other and think what the fuck are we doing.

Why do tv adverts constantly make it about people seemingly having the best time ever? I have never cooked with my family members over a video call, I have never danced around my room with fairy lights all over me so why so they do it? All the video calls I've been on have been dull as fuck with the conversation mainly being about how dull as fuck things are at the minute. So to all the advert producers, all the celebrities etc having the best time ever, please fuck off.

During not swing lockdown 😬

My dickhead neighbour who has nothing better to do than moan about every other person who lives on here

Mainly just the lack of proper routine. I’m still up early-ish, exercising then housework, lunch etc but the dc’s are getting up at lunchtime, taking ages to get dressed/washed. Have to nag them to do anything. DH going to the office so it’s all left to me. It’s bad enough when it’s just the normal summer holidays but 6 months of it! I think I’m going to go crazy.

Also Sick, sick, sick of buying/preparing/cooking/clearing food. They all want something different for lunch every day but if I let them make it themselves they make such a mess.

@rosegoldivy snap! My husband was signed off work a couple of weeks before lockdown and is still off. His rediscovered love of gaming is driving me mad! Up til 1-2am, nice long lie til 9am, asleep on sofa during the afternoon. Meanwhile I’m working from home as a teacher, homeschooling our daughter, doing the usual cooking, cleaning, drudge work. He’s been great at entertaining our son while I do all this, and is mostly pulling his weight with housework...but my god I’m tired!

@yellowbluebell I totally agree bloody annoying smug adverts about everyone having a great time during lockdown!

Cooking... its endless and utterly relentless. Snacks, meals ... DD pescaterian, dp hardly touches veg. I am sick of cooking at least 2 meals everytime. I'm sick of planning them, sick of the fact the dishwasher is constantly running and no one else seems capable of unloading it.

Cleaning and tidying.. the house is a tip. I'm paying the cleaner not to come. However much I clean its still as bad half an hour later. Yesterday I swept and mopped kitchen floor and came down less than an hour later to discover loads of bread crumbs on it. Nobody seems to help except dp. The DCs just mess up after me. And WHY is it so hard to put things in the recycling bin rathr than on the surface almost next to it (obviously unrinsed that's my job apparently)

Home education - DD won't let me see what she's doing at all. DS messes about and has to have someone sit with him almost every second or he's just not doing it. I keep bursting into tears over it. If this carries on until September or 2021 or for however long I'm going to be a wreck.

Washing... why is it they seem to wear so many clothes when they're not at school.. .and why do they never pick them up and put them in the bl**dy laundery basket and why does dd pull almost everything out of her drawers and leave clean and dirty stuff mixerd on the floor

Trying to get them out into the fresh air... they'd all rather slob about on screens. Getting them to take their dailly exercise is hideous... unless of course its lesson time in which case DS won't come in from the garden

Screens... .f*cking screens... trying to stop them using them ALL THE TIME. They have to use them for lessons that's bad enough.. and especially Animal Crossing... if I hear one more word about cute creatures living on an imaginary island I'm going to inwardly collapse. And finally I got DS out the other day.... with me and dp for a walk.. away from screens and dp immediately gave his phone to ds to play pokemon go... I hate pokemons too

DP helps but he's working full time and I'm part time. DD is 14, missing her friends and taking it out on me. DS is 7 and also keeps asking when he can invite his friends around and I have to keep saying no to both of them and then they hate me..

The news and media in general. I've stopped listening to it. Lockdown coud be lifted and I may not even realise it

My health I've started having seizures again after they've been controlled for ages and I can't get any help.. phoned GP on Wednesday last week and they said I had to speak to my neurologist.. and I don't even know who they are because my previous one retired and hospital said I'd not been assigned a new one yet... and I need to wait until everything has been sorted out after corona

I think in short lockdown is getting on my nerves

HMRC keep sending me PAYE notices changing my tax code. Some kind of technical error either at their end or my employers that I know employer has been trying to sort out since JUNE last year and HMRCj just doing nothing except endless tax code changes.

bet you wish you'd never askedj.. I just want to feel well and sit in a coffee shop with cake and a huge cream covered hot chocolate and a book BE BY MYSELF with no screens, washing up, cooking or pokemon or animal crossig or home educating or anything...

Sorry that was a huge massive rant. Actually we're better of than most as apart from HMRC debacle we've got a steadyish income and space in the house and a garden. I'm just whinging and complaining and feel a complete fraud... feel a bit better for getting all of that off my chest though

Recognise so much of these rants.
It’s all very well recognising that other people have things worse but it’s still bloody hard and it makes me feel even worse when think I should be finding it easy because we’ve got a decent house, garden and income.

I cried yesterday because dh woke up at 8 and started work straight shut away in spare room, then used his lunch ‘break’ (10 minutes) to have a shower. When it came to dinner time at 6.30 and he had to make ‘one more phone call’ before coming down it tipped me over the edge. Is it too much to ask for a bit of adult company during the day?

Bonfires. All my neighbours have decided to blitz their gardens and burn everything despite having green waste collections.

Local whatsapp group. I have decided I would rather not get to know my neighbours and that I like home to be a respite from society rather than the centre of it.

Constant demands for food from my 9 year old with ASD and the lack of any peace and quiet.

Everything.
No peace and quiet. I want to listen to loud music and watch tv but can't. I can't even use the internet most of the time, because DC are using the devices for school then entertainment. In the evening they are allowed to play on the nintendo, which meant I could use the ipad, but now DN skypes them on the ipad and they play minecraft together.
Zoom meetings. I don't work from home, but I hate social/ family zoom meetings. My family (parents and siblings) didn't all meet up together regularly in 'real life' but now have to have a weekly zoom meeting to chat about what we have been up to in the past week, which is mostly nothing obviously.
Having to wear a face mask for 13hrs a day at work. Obviously I am grateful for the face mask but it is really irritating.
Trying to teach my DC and failing at it.
Having to prepare meals and wash up all the time.
Not being able to pop to the shops and choose my own food (I can't drive so DH is the one who goes to the supermarket), all my socks have fallen apart but I can't go and choose some more.
The people who get on the empty except for me bus and sit on a seat that isn't 2m away