DH and I both work full time and v lucky to have not been furloughed. We also have two pre school aged children and are more lucky still to have 4h childcare a day because I’m a teacher and even though I’ve not had to go in for a few weeks now because so few kids attending still pre recording lessons and marking work for all my classes.
The thing is, if anything, my workload is as much as it was before because of the weekly calls home to lots of students, the fact I’m still fairly useless with tech so recording one twenty minute instruction video takes me normally over an hour plus editing and where I wouldn’t normally mark every piece of class work in depth, only assessments and homework I’m marking it all now because the kids deserve acknowledgment and motivation for all the efforts they’re putting in. I’ve got three online weekly meetings all of which are constructive and necessary eg discussing sharing out planning, support for vulnerable students etc so none I can sack off or suggest we don’t need.
Meanwhile my DH has his first conference call at seven am and then pretty much constant calls throughout the day. He, along with the others at his firm, is at significant risk of redundancy and almost certainly doing more than is essential but probably needs to to show commitment and try to save the business. I have the kids in the afternoon, he then takes over for bedtime and then I do the work I didn’t do in the morning in the evening and then over the weekend too.
We’re sharing the laundry and cooking and housework pretty evenly and I can’t work out if we’re being madly inefficient or something but we are genuinely barely seeing each other - it’s like a conveyor belt of shifts between work, childcare, housework etc. We maybe watch some Netflix in the weekend evenings but both feeling constantly knackered despite losing the commutes and not having to do formal home schooling or anything. The house is hardly a show home either, it’s just basic laundry, cooking and minimal cleaning we’re doing.
Is this familiar to anyone? None of my other friends both work full time, feel like we must be doing something wrong.