Giving birth in the next few weeks

[KatnissMellark]

If you are/were due in the next few weeks, what's your view on socialising if/when lockdown measures are eased?

For context, I one dose below needing to shield anyway due to asthma and also have an autoimmune condition. Baby is the result of our eight round of IVF (one previous baby, three miscarriages) so we can tend towards the cautious, but it does feel sensible to be extra careful with my conditions+a newborn in the house.

Relatives are expecting to visit as soon as lockdown measures are lifted. This includes a teacher, ICU nurse and many DC in school/nursery.

We are thinking we need a further period of being careful- DH can work from home with no issues and older DC obviously don't need to be in nursery.

What do would you do?

I think first off it’s not been 12 weeks for the vulnerable group yet. So you need to tell them they can’t visit as you are shielding. I also think if you and your husband are in agreement you then extend beyond that if you can , say something like we want this time to bond as a family and ensure no jealousy between the kids which would be caused by all the oohing and ahhhing of the new baby. Are the ICU nurse/teacher etc the grandparents? If they are not I would be setting boundaries and not having them round for a while.

I'm not shielding, sorry, obviously wasn't clear (think there's a typo in there). The dose I'm on to control my asthma is one below the threshold to shield. I do have an autoimmune condition on top though.

Unfortunately both ICU nurser and teacher are grandparents, one from each set

They don’t need to know that you are not shielding. Say you’ve been reassessed as they realised you have both asthma and immune deficiency.

I think you and DH decide together and the rest can wait whether they are grandparents, aunts, uncles, whatever.
You decide the risk you will take in your own home.
I've seen some people going to windows and new parents holding up newborns and the visitors not going inside, which might be an option so they see the child. But at the end of the day you're going to be parents to this little one and whatever you do they and your current child are your priority.
Congratulations 💐

Very good suggestion. Hadn't occurred to me to be anything other than 100% honest about our once the decision had been made, might save some discontent though.

Bumping for the morning crowd, would love some opinions on the right thing to do here.

I'm due in June, not planning on having any visitors for the first few months. Gutted my mum can't stay and help for the first week and gutted I'll be giving birth alone so husband can stay with toddler but to me it's just not worth the risk, newborns and postpartum mums are so vulnerable.

I'm due any day now with my twins and my best friend who works in a high risk setting which has seen a previous case messaged me yesterday saying how shes coming right over and she cant wait to see them :( I got so stressed out about it I had to message back and say 'yep when this is all over you can see them as much as you like 'I don't think she gets it :/ noone is coming in and we arent going out unless it's a walk around the block ! We don't have any family in this country so that's not an issue for us but they wouldn't be allowed either !

I'm due in a couple of weeks and I am planning to treat the baby as "shielding" so no visitors for the first couple of months. Even if the lockdown has ended.

Newborns have fuck all immune system it would be stupid to.put the baby at risk.