What would you do in this situation please help

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DC due to go to dad's tomorrow. Only live a couple miles away. DC dad has informed me he is going to be going to a family members funeral who died of coronavirus. I've no idea how since he is not close family. It's extended family I think it would be classed as, aunt.

I really, really don't want to send DC. I want to wait for 14 days after the funeral. This isn't a petty underlying animosity thing, ex husband has a lot of form for being unreasonable and he is an addict but there is no animosity normally for DC sake, although there certainly will be if I stop DC going. It will cause serious arguments and that is an understatement, but I feel it is too much of a risk. I also feel that considering ex husband lives with an extremely extremely vulnerable shielding other adult that he is being reckless in attending especially given he is not a close family member.

What would you do

His aunt died? That isn't a distant relative. He isn't being unfair to go.

That being said I would give him my condolences then advise him that son would stay with me for another few weeks 'just incase, we shouldnt take risks with our sons health afterall, right?'.

Also, just thinking: technically he shouldnt be moving between houses at the min anyway.

Also, just thinking: technically he shouldnt be moving between houses at the min anyway

Children are allowed to move between parental homes if their family is separated.

What’s the worry OP? Do you think ex is likely to pick up CV at the funeral? Is it more likely than in the supermarket?

I’d let dc go.

Does he want to take dc to the funeral, sorry it's not clear?

Are you worried ex will pick it up at the funeral and infect dc?

Funerals are very very limited at the moment. I think he's more likely to pick it up at a supermarket.

I don’t think you should stop them based on this.

More concerned about the addict bit tbh.

Is he wanting to take the children? When is the funeral? It’s unfair to judge how close someone’s relative is though, and if the person the ex lives with are really ‘extremely extremely vulnerable’ then your children probably should be there anyway.

I think he would be more likely to catch it at a funeral with close family than the supermarket. I can’t imagine 2 meter social distancing and some of them may be from the same household as the deceased.
He is within his rights to go to an Aunts funeral and you are within your rights to keep your son away for two weeks after it.

Some people are closer to their aunt/uncle than their parents so YABVVU to call her a 'distant relative'.

Have I missed where OP said it's a distant relative? I thought she just stated "extended family".

An aunt is extended family rather than immediate family.