How to juggle kids with two jobs?

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Before this, a huge bone of contention was how to juggle two careers with children (one paying twice as much as the other - guess which is the female partner?) Ditto in lockdown - how do other people share this fairly?

I don’t know. My dh doesn’t share. I however am homeschooling 3 kids all under 12 and two have special needs whilst trying to work and not let the house develop into a tip. Husband just goes to work in his home office and works from 9-5.30pm like usual everyday.

It's up to each family to make their own choices. It depends on so many factors (e.g. how old are the children/any SEN/ is childcare available/who has the 'easier' job/whose employer is more understanding/who has the more flexible job/who has the long term potential to earn more etc etc).

Generally though....50/50.

Split the day in two, one takes the morning shift and one the afternoon.

DH works 6am-10am, I do 10am-2pm and the afternoon/evening is a juggle depending on calls.

We are both still working FT. We talk each day about what we have that day (meetings, work that needs real concentration) and then work around that.

We are working it between us. We go through our diaries at the beginning of the week and work our calls and do not disturb times, then we wield Tom there. Try not to book meetings at the same time and the kids spend a lot of time in the garden!

Work from not weird Tom!

I'm in this situation. We share things as equally as we can.
My job is more flexible so can be done whenever I can fit it in but I really wanted to avoid looking after DS all day then working all evening and weekend.

We discuss and book out important meetings at the start of the week and do our best to ensure we work around each other. For example, DH has a meeting everyday at 2.30 so I try to avoid booking things in at this time. I also need blocks of time where I can work in a quite room and not be disturbed so we book this in and DH takes DS on a walk, out in the garden or just generally keeps him away from me. We have to compromise but the key is that despite him earning double my salary he doesn't view his job or himself as more important.

We also share childcare and household chores. Currently DH does breakfast and lunch and I cook our evening meal.

My DH and I are just juggling! I’m paid almost double him but my job is more flexible and more self-directed than his so his is actually taking priority during ‘office hours’ over my better paid jobs. I don’t think the amount one parent is paid should come into it too much!

Completely turned tables here.
I go to work in excess of 50-69 hours a week.
Husband wfh 2 kids.
I laid it on the line of what I needed him to do each day, taking into account his job, homeschooling and household chores.
It’s really tough but he’s doing grand.
I do a big clean on my day off and then he does the rest to keep it up the rest of the week.

We have a new normal in this house and it works well.

Dh is a key worker and is at work every day. I am working from home, one of my jobs being new, and I am seriously struggling.

Ds1 wouldn't speak to me unless he needed to!

Ds2: We've had 7 movie nights, cake baking and an Easter egg hunt. That lasted 4 minutes.

This is because Ds2 is a big fan of mini eggs. We pour say 20 in a bowl, and then hide them.

and we have hidden mini eggs downstairs: in the kitchen, hall, lounge, maybe since he was 2 maybe 3?

and so we have already used up all the hiding places! and he knows all of them! so when
Dh did it for him the other day it was over within a couple of minutes!

there are no new hiding places to find.

anyone who tells me that they've been doing it for hours, just makes me feel rotten!

Ds2 plays x box all day unless I make him stop. To watch tv.

We have endless arguments about how both of them do too much x box.

Have done for years.

I only tell them to watch tv, so that other parents don't realise how much my kids are on x box.

Truly awful parenting!
😳😢

Thanks all - I think I need to address the issue here before my job suffers any more. Good luck everyone!