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Neighbours have guests

21 replies

Mother40 · 15/04/2020 15:31

The neighbours have guests round. The adults are sitting in.front garden over 2m from each other but the children are playing together and handing each other stuff. A bit annoying as we have been following the rules and our children have not seen their friends since the lockdown. Would you report someone for this?

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Bbq1 · 15/04/2020 15:33

No. Report to who? For what? The kids sharing toys? It's a bit annoying but just ignore it.

PumpkinP · 15/04/2020 15:33

My neighbours are the same. I’m not getting involved.

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Mother40 · 15/04/2020 15:35

Report for the fact that you shouldn't be.mixing with anyone from your household right now.

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LetMeOut · 15/04/2020 15:36

Mind your own business.
I am a key worker for NHS, my children cannot go to school as I work long shifts and they only offer 9-3. My parents therefore have my children and my sister in laws children as she is frontline. They play in the garden together. Would you report us? It's either that or we, as frontline NHS workers cannot go to work.

You do not know circumstances.

longearedbat · 15/04/2020 15:37

No I wouldn't. I'd mind my own business.

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Mother40 · 15/04/2020 15:37

They are not looking after the children, the parents are there too. They are obviously having a get together which is against the rules.

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Davespecifico · 15/04/2020 15:40

I think, in this case I’d probably not do anything about it as you’ve not seen them constantly flouting lockdown rules.

That said, if one family has it and they pass it to the other and one of their family members is vulnerable (which they might not know until it’s too late), then it could have been avoided by not visiting.

NevilleGoddard · 15/04/2020 15:41

Report to who?

Eslteacher06 · 15/04/2020 15:43

You can report on your local police website for stuff like this. I wouldn't do it this time but if it happened again I would

Becstar90 · 15/04/2020 15:44

I'd stay out of it.

effiehabb · 15/04/2020 15:45

I'd stay out of it too...

Tartyflette · 15/04/2020 15:46

Our neighbours had visitors round for a few hours in the afternoon over the weekend.
I was irritated (also because of the music playing loudly outside) but then I had a word with myself.
Make a conscious decision and let it go. Unless it escalates into a big party/gathering of course.
You may feel better if you decide to shrug It off. I did, anyway.

Bluntness100 · 15/04/2020 15:46

Do you mean you’re curtain twitching and want to call the police on your neighbours because the kids aren’t social distancing?

Well no, most people would not be calling the police on their neighbours for this. They may have been no where else, no risk, not literally been out for a month, and you just don’t know.

Honestly though, think what you’ve reduced yourself to. Spying on your neighbours and thinking of calling the police on them,

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Mother40 · 15/04/2020 15:48

No, I was not curtain twitching! I walked past their house on my walk.

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NevilleGoddard · 15/04/2020 15:50

You can fill in an online form if you like but nothing will happen. The legislation doesn't give the Police the power to go into peoples homes to see if they've got mates round. A party? Yes they might respond. Otherwise you're wasting their time and yours and most forces have told people not to report this kind of situation but instead have a word yourself..

tootyfruitypickle · 15/04/2020 15:55

Op my neighbour has her adult kids round every single day, all at once, for most of the day. The room I work in has particularly thin walls and I can hear them. I can also hear them when DD and I go into the garden. It makes me rage tbh as I miss my parents so much but I’ve learnt to ignore it for the most part. Their conscience to worry about . We live in a cul de sac and I’m sure it’s been noticed all round as neighbour doesn’t have a car so visitors are pretty obvious! I would report and I wouldn’t say anything. I’m just now not interested in having any kind of relationship with that side nor ever will .

tootyfruitypickle · 15/04/2020 15:56

I wouldn’t report I mean!

AnnieOH1 · 15/04/2020 15:57

Just consider for a moment how you know whether this is for the well-being/mental health of one of the children? Or even maybe the parent? Is it not better for the parent to take the children to play safely outside whilst the adults maintain social distancing, with someone they trust as opposed to potentially having a mental breakdown? Or for the child to have a mental breakdown because they aren't neurotypical and this situation is simply too much for them?

Yes that might all be far fetched. Yes it quite probably is just your neighbours taking the mickey. But you don't know that. Just be aware too that this lockdown and entire situation will end one day, bad blood between neighbours (including potentially needing to declare disputes) lasts a lifetime.

DrMadelineMaxwell · 15/04/2020 16:00

My ndn has a (4am drunk karaoke, girlfriend fighting -bad as each other) lodger.
Ndn and lodger both believe CV is a load of fuss over nothing.
So ndn went visiting self isolating neighbour and walked into their house.
And lodger has his gf and loud brothers round constantly. Almost daily.

weliveincrazytimes · 15/04/2020 16:34

I don't think you can report to anyone except maybe the police OP and I don't think the police will do anything. It is frustrating but try to ignore them. My elderly neighbour breaks the rules daily and none of the friends or family visiting are key workers (they don't work at all). Hopefully they will only infect themselves and no one else who is actually trying to follow the rules.

Rosalie49 · 15/04/2020 16:45

Our neighbour had a BBQ over the weekend and had some friends and family round. It infuriated me since I think why am I social distancing for? Just for a laugh? Why have I not seen my mum for weeks? Why is she missing my newborn baby grow up? Just for the fun of it? I do think people like that are part of the problem when it comes to this virus spreading but then inevitably it will spread in other ways but social distancing is definitely helping and the figures prove it.

With that being said, did I report them? No. I minded my own business and let them get on with it. It wasn’t affecting me personally. Also, as other have pointed out, you don’t know the circumstances. Although, someone else on our street reported them and the police did come round and stopped it.

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