Mums of lockdown babies

[frillseeking]

How are you coping with having a newborn in lockdown? I found a lot of support online pre baby but nothing really now baby is here. Be good to talk to other mums

@frillseeking I have a 5 month old. Happy to take an questions/support requests over PM

Struggling a bit with 16 day old. Only been out nicu since Friday. Was great all weekend but hes been so unsettled since last night. Fussy, crying, loads of wind

My baby is just turning 5 months old, and I also have a freshly turned 3 year old with a broken leg.

A new baby can make you feel isolated at the best of times, even more so now. If things are getting to you it's important to reach out to people.

My baby is 2 weeks tomorrow. Constantly feeding at the moment and I also have a very frustrated 3 year old who is struggling with staying in a small flat all the time so I'm shattered.

On the plus side I seem to be recovering well from my section and breast feeding is going much better than it did with my first DS.

I have been thinking that there could well be an increase in PND as new mums struggle without being able to get out and about or see family/friends for support.

How long were you in for hockeys? Hope baby is doing ok now.
Is this your first louise? How are you managing not being able to take baby to any groups etc?

I've got an 18month old and baby is a week old. He feeds constantly and it's going really well but it's difficult still trying to give attention to my DD. I'm so glad DH is at home to help for the foreseeable, thats one plus side of the lockdown. I just feel sad that things are so different for this baby and that family and friends will miss these special, early days x

@frillseeking yes it’s my first. I’ve actually found some zoom classes for Baby sensory so that’s good. Also I do lots of video calls on a Facebook portal with the grandparents etc and take loads of photos and videos on my phone but it definitely still feels hard. My husband is still working ( from home but it’s a genuinely 9 to 6 job. So I do definitely get lonely still:

I'm due in 2 weeks. First baby and single mother (by choice). Definitely worried about being further isolated with newborn. Isolation has meant I've not been able to get out and meet other mums to be or do any proper antenatal courses.

I have a 3 month old. She wakes up for a feed twice a night. She has been in and out of the hospital over the past few weeks but now we are currently back at home as her doctor and medical appointments are cancelled.

My baby is nearly four months old, I think! I’m kind of losing the plot. Also have an energetic four year old who doesn’t like playing by himself. The baby is a lovely sweet girl but not a good sleeper, she feeds through the night so I start every day tired and achy. Would love to go to a playgroup or park right now and let four year old run off and enjoy himself. He was going to be in nursery three days a week... how are you coping? X

@frillseeking i was only in 2 days after section but wee guy in 2 weeks. Hes doing okay. Also got 10 year old and not easy on my own. Baby has lots of health issues which is a concern. Feeling very isolated as cant see friends. Neonatal outreach worker coming to see him today and health visitor tomorrow.

I've got a 15 day old and it's been going okay but feeling very alone and isolated. My C-section seems to be recovering well but I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing! He feeds constantly and I'm always giving him my breast but is that the right thing to do? Should I be trying to create a routine?

I wish I could open the doors to my friends even just for a cuppa or for someone to settle him in his pram. I haven't got baby blues but I've definitely got lonely mum syndrome!

It's been a bit of an anti-climax I feel for mums who have just had a baby, I'm just grateful that we have a bit of sunshine outside and that my baby is completely healthy and happy

@rainingoutsideagain I say milk when he wants it and routine be damned!!! Just cuddle and enjoy

Hi all, I’ve got a 10 week old. She’s a lovely sweet baby but it’s been pretty hard going. I don’t get lonely as I’m also caring for/ homeschooling my 5.5yo and almost 4yo. Had counted on having them both in school, 3yo for 3 days a week, when we decided to have a third. I never planned to have all 3 full time! DH is working a lot most days so can’t help despite being physically in the house. He’s on leave for two weeks over Easter thankfully and I’m trying to get the house clean and grab a bit of rest.

@rainingoutsideagain milk/breast is the answer to everything for bf newborns. You've got a while before a routine is even vaguely workable.

I have a 4 month old dd. Taking care of her makes everything feel better tbh.

Oh and she’s been sleeping through the night since about 8 weeks old. Lucky me at the moment.

4 month old twins here and a 4 year old who is used to being an only child. DH is wfh upstairs so no use. I'd kill for a play park

DS was 5 months last week. Most days are good as he's generally pretty happy, but days like today are hard when he refuses to nap but gets more and more grumpy.

It's really making me realise how much I relied on support from my parents, even if that was just visiting them so they could play with son and I could have a rest for half an hour . DH is an amazing dad but working from home in a busy job so I'm having to do my best to keep baby entertained and not disturb him. I can't wait to get back to baby groups as well for some more adult conversation!

Hi 🙋🏻‍♀️I've got an 8 week old and a 3 and a half year old. I don't feel too isolated as husband is working from home and got the toddler to attend to, but feel bored and slightly losing my mind/will to live with a child who NEVER stops talking. He's normally at nursery 3 days a week, and I can tell he's missing the stimulation. I try and do as much as I can with him but he needs constant attention (think it's a combo of new baby and change to his routine), and the baby spends most of her time plonked under the baby gym or in her bouncer. The mum guilt is in full force! I know it's silly when we are healthy but I feel like I've missed out on my maternity leave, and I really struggled mentally last time so didn't enjoy it. This time I feel fine and ready to enjoy it and there's a pandemic. What are the chances eh

@DorotheaHomeAlone like you I planned for my eldest to be in childcare when I was on my maternity leave, there was no way we could have seen this coming! Not the relaxed maternity leave I had expected.

I've got a 3 month old and a near 5 year old. Thought we'd timed this perfectly so he'd be in school (and settled after a term) before she arrived so I'd have time to focus on her in the same way I did when he was born. Ha! Calm quiet nap time is long gone and She's now in the sling constantly while I'm trying to home school him. Not how Mat leave was meant to be!!! That said, it's lovely for him to spend so much time with her - he clearly adores her.

I've got a 5 week old, she's been amazing and I feel lucky to have her, she's just started smiling and becoming a proper baby, really cheers me up times and is helping me through this.
Myself on the other hand, I'm feeling very frustrated and my depression is making its way back. Having had bad SPD since December, and taking my maternity earlier than planned, ive been pretty much on 'lockdown' stuck inside not able to do anything or go anywhere for months and now also not recovering very well from my c section, I can't even do much in my house or go for walks. This isn't the happy start to my maternity I was expecting and was desperately looking forward to after a difficult pregnancy 😔

I have a 10 week old baby as well as a 7 year old. She is sleeping better at night now which is definitely helping! I’m feeling a bit sad that we’ve missed out on baby classes and had planned for dd1 to be at school. I miss seeing my parents and getting help from my mum. I think the hardest thing is not knowing when it’s going to end!

Sorry for slow reply. I think my baby is having a growth spurt, I remember my DD being the same at 2 weeks- constantly hungry, not wanting to be put down and generally unsettled. I don't mind any of that but am finding the constant feeding v difficult because he never seems satisfied so I feel like a failure. DD would feed for ages too at times but would then be content whereas he'll start rooting around again a few minutes later and arch his back and generally seem uncomfortable. Finding it very difficult not having time for DD as well as feel constantly pinned to the sofa. Have felt quite down this week and just sad about the whole situation. So many people keep saying how lovely, make the most of being at home as a family which yes is lovely but it's very difficult when you don't have a choice. We're trying to stay positive but it's such a difficult situation for all. Hope everyone is doing ok

Got 6 week old girl. Haven't seen any family since march. since coming out of hospital I have found it hard. Other half helps loads with baby, it the not seeing family is the hardest, not having my mom n aunties there for support and advice. I've been googling everything.