Lockdown positives and how much longer can you cope?

[whatisforteamum]

I have to say I am in my mid 50s and apart from the obvious tragedy of so many families affected by this awful virus I have found the actual restrictions ok.
Normally I am a workaholic and don't see dh from one day to another.I think being forced to stop work for a few weeks and not to out...didn't much before the to work hours and social anxiety.
Chores have been caught up,I've had time to chill and wear my own clothes eat at meal times and just be.
I love a long walk and love in the countryside.We have a kind of routine.
This is my first Easter off in many years.I could come with a few more weeks for sure.How about anyone one else?
How much longer could you cope with?I honestly don't miss anyone but Iive with dh and ds.

I'm coping well I could go on like this for months if I'm honest.

I could continue on for a couple of months, but I’m very privileged in every way. And I’ve needed a physical and mental rest for quite some time.

I'm finding it relaxing. I like not having much social responsibility. It's like everything is on pause.

But I also can't wait to see my family. I have a 3 month and 2 year old and I feel like they benifit from family and friends and I want them to spend time with and see the baby grow and change.

Also not going to lie I can't wait for my DM/MIL/SIL to take my 2 year old for a couple of hours each week again.

It makes me feel more normal. I love him but he is full on and I need a break once in a while.

So glad I am not alone.I probably haven't had this much rest since dcs were little or perhaps my own school summers holidays.I lived simply before so I guess less to lose.Also the pressure to be enjoying myself that came from others expectations,I don't miss it at all!

The only thing that bothers me is the supermarkets as I have a toddler so not easy in long queues etc plus I can't get an online shop.
Other than that I could cope with it for a few more weeks I think. It's nice not having to make excuses not to see annoying relatives 🙂

Normally I would consider myself to be ordinary but at the moment I am realising how hugely privileged I am. My children are old enough to entertain themselves a while but young enough to be happy with the company of their parents. We chose a smaller house with a bigger garden when we moved (3 bed new build) and it feels as good as a gated estate. My husband has been less of an arse than usual (!) And it has been great working from home, I am getting up at 6.45 on working days instead of 5.15, and am available to my family by 5.01pm instead of walking in, knackered from a shit drive, some time after 6. I've had time to exercise, we live in an area with decent walks very near our house, we have enough to eat plus gin. And I'm seeing more of my friends and family than before! They all live a fair distance from me and have (had?) busy lives, suddenly everyone is texting and video calling and doing weekly virtual pub quizzes. Its really nice.

I'm finally getting caught up with some decorating jobs that have been outstanding for quite a long time. I could happily cope with lockdown for another month or so.

I’m on mat leave until 1 Sept, quite happy as we are as long as we keep our jobs. We live very rurally and find the peace relaxing. We have a garden and country views and walks on the doorstep.

But once I have to go back to work, which would be WFH with a baby, it’ll be a whole heap of shit.
So basically hoping that we are back to work as normal with nurseries open by 1 Sept!

One of my kids isn't coping with the loss of her school routine well at all and her level of anxiety no matter how we try to help her is at the point of causing her physical symptoms (started as school went into distancing mode before closure and lockdown). Seeing her struggle causes me no end of pain on the quiet when she's gone to bed on a night.

DD1 isn't coping well with the lack of an end date - neither am I really but I'm adult enough to be able to rationalize around it more than she is... DH is an introvert gamer so it is like his time has finally come but the rest of us will survive as long as it takes but at a cost.

Work is long hours and stressful, other than that life isn't wildly different to normal for me; up between 0400 - 0430 and home anywhere from 1700 to 2100, dinner to cook, jobs to do. Exercise pretty much all as normal. Obviously no going out to socialise in my down time (but I don't do much of that at all) and the same restrictions as everyone else but I am fortunate to live rurally and have a large garden plus space to walk and run without seeing a soul.

My DH is faring less well as his normality has been snatched away although he is at home on full pay so we know that we don't have any cause for complaint.

Could exist like this for a good long time if needed.

Love the slower pace of life, dd 16 is starting to crack without her friends and routine. No exams, no end of school and long summer days with her friends. She's snappy today and not nice to be around

It makes me feel very guilty for saying it, but there’s one very happy introvert here.

Job is reasonably secure & can be readily done from home. Kids old enough to be no bother at all. DH in same boat at me.

Touch wood, all good.

(And maybe whisper it, better??)

Oh yes with dcs it would be difficult.
I get up at 7 home by 10 pm or 1030.Bath bed repeat.I normally love it but I'm loving this freedom.I do have a small garden though so I can get outside for fresh air.My heart goes out to anyone in a flat.

Apart from alcohol of earnings I could live like this long term quite happily

I'm coping perfectly fine in myself, but I hate seeing friends struggling with money. I am really sad to be away from my adult dd, who would have been home over the holidays. I'm also really worried about my dm who lives quite away from me and has mental health problems. I worry about all my work colleagues and literally can't watch the news or read about it. I can't separate my feelings of being fine and what's going on around us.

I think if you are finding this all ok or enjoyable you do need to check your privilege.

We're doing fine, DH is NHS so still working full time. I'm staying home with our 2 year old, who has really turned a corner recently and is a joy to be around. We are fortunate that we have eachother, we are all healthy and we have a nice house and garden - not everyone is.

Our glampinsite is closed and our holiday cottage is closed and I feel I can actually enjoy the farm for once and do all the things I mean to do but am always too exhausted to do

I don't miss not seeing people or going out and am enjoying it all except trying to wfh while looking after/home schooling DC, which is incredibly stressful and I feel like I'm not able to give enough time to either work or the DC. But this weekend has been lovely... going to wfh more when everything goes back to normal I hope

Aside from the obvious concerns about health of family and friends and wanting everyone to stay safe, I am coping well with this. I was finding the daily grind of work, home, school and extra curricular stuff a bit much. I find that things are a lot calmer we are enjoying mealtimes and walks together. DC are less stressed although missing school and their friends there are less friendships dramas and social pressure to look perfectly made up every day. It also helps that I am probably a homebody and I'm happier pottering in the garden than out at a trendy bar.

Yes I never realised how lucky we are to have a house with garden in a rural area . I really feel for all the families stuck in flats at this time @jogonlll

I'm WFH but work is starting to dry up and I'm worried about job security.

Me and DH aren't used to being shut in together 24-7 and I can feel that we're both starting to grate on each other's nerves, we live in a small house and there's nowhere to go to just get a bit of peace and quiet, I'm even missing my train journey to work, that was my quiet time to just sit and read a book. It's getting harder and harder just motivating myself to get up and have a shower every day. I miss my routine.

Our DD is 13, she was happy about it all when the schools closed but she's really missing her friends now. I'm helping as much as I can but parental company just isn't the same. I'm worried this is going to effect her mental heath in the long term if this goes on and on.

The only one of us that's happy is the dog. She's loving having us all around all the time.

I'm not coping at all and can't sustain it much longer but needs must

I'm quite happy so far. I've got shopping slots, a garden, and a job that I'm still going to on reduced hours. I'm liking the slower pace of life, time to rest and relax and not rush about.

However I realise I am very fortunate that I do have a garden and do still have my wages coming in even if I am a low earner and that I am in a rural location. These things aren't always great in 'normal' times but they are definitely making the difference right now.

If I could guarantee my mum with COPD was going to be ok and the rest of us too then I would be very happy. As it is, I do worry about the impact on her and that I'm missing valuable time not being able to see her.

and I know Im priviliged. But people asked for positives. There are lots of negatives, like worrying about my daughter who is in the shielding group, and my mother in law who has just been moved into a nursing home, and my parents who I havent seen since early Feb as theyve been sick and not quite over it.