Anybody else missing their parents and finding thinking of them alone hard?

[StrawberryF1eld]

My dm is on her own since dd died. We would normally all be together. Got an egg and plant to her but keep thinking of Easters past and her all on her own.

Yes, it's really sad Strawberry. We have to remmeber we're doing it to keep them safe, but it's hard.

Yes. My parents were due to visit us this Easter and I keep thinking about what we should have been doing - they're in failing health so can't go out at all at the moment, and as they live 200 miles away we can't even wave at them through a window while exercising. MIL is a widow in sheltered accommodation where no one is allowed in or out and use of communal areas has been banned. I can't help wondering when and if we will all see one another again.

Yes. I am seeing them every week on Zoom and they seem very well and in good spirits but Dad is in his 80s and it's the fear of not seeing him again in RL if we get repeated waves once this lockdown is over.
Darned pesky coronavirus!

It’s the all day every day on her own I worry about. Grief is bad enough as it is.She was planning on doing a big Easter dinner with all the grandchildren. I guess it will make us all make the most of every moment when it’s all over.

Yes, my mum, dad and sister too. The last couple of days I keep thinking about the last time I saw them and how I didn't appreciate it.... then bursting into tears. Ridiculous behaviour for a grown woman I know, but I'm blaming hormones

Yes, I'm at the other end of the country and I should be home now with them

Yes Strawberry, it must be so hard for families who have lost someone recently xxx

Same here OP, my DM has been isolating alone for a Month on Monday We FaceTime / speak countless times a day but I know she's putting on a front a times, before full lockdown started we suggested she move in with us for the foreseeable, she said she didn't want to put us out but I so wish she had 💔

Mine live abroad.

Between coronavirus, old age, and the commercial travel restrictions, I have to confront the fact that there's a strong chance I'll never see them (and most of the rest of the family) again.

Yes my mum is all alone, I speak to her every day and she is working from home and keeping busy but I know she misses me and the dc. I’m an only child and normally see her every Weekend so I really miss her.

My dad is also all alone, an alcoholic, drinking himself to death on his own and crying on the phone to me every day. He normally gets out of the house and works so this has hit him so hard he has taken 10 steps back in his recovery.
Very sad and I miss them both very much.

Very much so!

I'm currently separated from my parents as well as my child - and while the latter hurts more in a primal mothering type of sense, I actually know she'll be okay and long for and miss my parents in an entirely different manner.

My mother, in particular, is not in the best of health. I keep on thinking that there's a small but non-negligible chance that last Christmas might be the last time I ever got to see her. It also very much makes me want to be four again and crawl on her lap (which used to be my happy place as a child - a nuclear war wouldn't have made me anxious cuddled up to mum).

Thankfully, they're well cared for and a lovely neighbour has taken over mum's shopping. Dad still works but in a very protected environment. I think he misses the pub!

It's sad but take comfort that they are safe and you CAN see them again,

Some people (me included) have lost a parent and will never get will never see them again, so the fact you can when this is over should help you through this tough time.

Yes it's so awful isn't it. My dad is in the shielded group & just came out of hospital having been pretty poorly before this all kicked off. He seems to think he'll be in lockdown til there's a vaccine & as a family with kids who have constantly got the sniffles, I've no idea when we'll get to go & see him properly. My DH is dropping stuff off for him (I can't drive at the moment & as we can't all nip off in the car to see him, I don't know when I'll see him again). I'm utterly devastated that the time he needs us most is the time we can't be near him.

My mum was widowed just over a year ago following my dad's short and horrific illness. She's really struggled to life alone and feel like she was just getting better when lockdown kicked in. I know she's lonely and struggling and want nothing more to go and see her. Breaks my heart every time I talk to her. I'm just grateful she's a key worker in NHS and can still get out and see people so she's not alone all day every day. My sister has invited her to stay with her for the lockdown but she refused. Sister is also frontline NHS as a nurse in a hospital so on the one hand I'm grateful mum said no so my sister isn't exposing her to more risk than she's already at but on the other I wish she'd taken up the offer so I'd know she's not alone. I'd have her with me but I stay too far from her work so it's not possible. Horrible situation and video calls just aren't the same as seeing someone in person. Can't wait until we come out the other side.

Wonder how we can make it easier for them.