DC due to see EXH who's been working on Covid ward

[NetDesMamans1]

My ex is a nurse on Covid ward, DC and I are self-isolating until next weekend. I am due back at work next Fri which means DC staying at his on Sat afternoon/night and Sun until 3pm. Ex has been dealing with the dead. I'm a care assistant in elderly care home.

I'm really stressed about this. I feel that they shouldn't be spending time at his house. They could catch it from him and then pass it on to me, then I take it to work. Surely he's high-risk for infection - may well already be. Stories on the news about outbreaks in care homes spreading like wildfire are horrible.

So you are saying no one who is working in your care home provides help for anyone else outside the home, works anywhere else or lives in a household who does?

www.theguardian.com/world/2020/apr/07/lawyers-inundated-by-divorced-parents-arguing-over-lockdown-custody

www.judiciary.uk/announcements/coronavirus-crisis-guidance-on-compliance-with-family-court-child-arrangement-orders/

Hope this helps. From a previous thread

You are probably as much at risk as he’s is...especially if he’s dealing with bodies. Usually I’d say don’t send them but as you are in a care home it makes little difference.

What are your options?

Logically can you not go to work and refuse contact?

Are you OK with this for an extended period?

Can you discuss your worries with ex?

Do you have a court order?

@NetDesMamans1
Normally I would say he should have the contact. However, he is at far higher risk at this present time handling corpses and those at end of life with covid than you are if no cases within your home setting.
Given this, I'm afraid that I would cancel the contact and give additional video calls etc.
He should appreciate the reason for this. More than anyone.

Mumteedum No court order or formal arrangement on him having time with the DC.