Awkward other parent

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We're all self isolating due to son's high temperature yesterday. 111 said we all had to self isolate for 14 days, including his father (we're divorced) who he saw on Monday. 111 also said that his father also had to self isolate on his own for 14 days.

Father is being awkward thinking that it doesn't apply to him and he wants to see his children. And my son is making me think that I'm the world's worst mum! I've said a firm no and don't think I'm being unreasonable, just sticking to the rules. I've talked to my son, explaining that it's not my decision, explained the reasons and expressed how sorry I am that he can't see him.

I know 111 are right. But my question is, would it be reasonable to go and stay with him after 7 days not 14?

Thanks!

And within the rules?

111 said 14 days to all self isolate so surely there are no exeptions?

I would think if 111 said 14, then it has to be 14 days.
I am lucky in that my ex agrees that our daughter is staying with me ufn regardless of symptoms - we aren't taking any risks.
I hope your son feels better soon

Thank you @Comeonmommy yes that's what I think. That's good you've got a decent other parent! This one has always thought he was above the law in more ways than one.

If you and son and your ex are effectively treating yourselves as one household then he could go and stay there, couldn't he? Unless your ex is saying he doesn't want to self-isolate?

Thanks for the idea, but no he's not coming here, not a chance. And he's saying that he's not self isolating.

@MargotMoon did you mean for son to stay at his? The doctor said my son couldn't leave the house or go to his dad's. I have another son too.

Ah, I see. My DD is going between houses once a week and me and her dad agreed that if any of us had symptoms we would consider ourselves to be one household and act accordingly. Therefore she could still swap over after one week. But obviously that takes cooperation which it doesn't sound like you let ex is up for

That's good. We need to sort something better out following the 14 days.

Your son only needs to isolate for 7 days though, as long as he doesn't still have symptoms. So he can go to his DF's then. DF still has to isolate for 14 days though.

Your son needs to isolate for all the time he has symptoms, or 7 days (including the 7th day) if he doesn’t have symptoms throughout all the week.
Anyone else who has come into contact with him needs to isolate for 14 days or 7 from the beginning of symptoms.

I think I get all that! So my son has been confined to his room. If he has no symptoms after 7 days (he has no symptoms now) can he mix with me and my other son in the house? This is frying my brain!

Yes.

Have you had the Boris letter and booklet?. It's got a handy chart.

If you are ill, you can go out after 7 days if you have no symtoms.

If you are exposed to someone, then it's 14 days if you have no symptoms, and seven days after symptoms started as long as they are gone (like it was for the first person).

If someone else in the house starts, then it's 14days after their symptoms started.

The first person to get it stays in the shortest time, the last person stays in longest!