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Children fighting. Help please!

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GreyishDays · 10/04/2020 08:48

Jeez yesterday was horrific. I swear they take it in turns. Three children, 8, 9, 12.
Oldest has slight neurological issues and some ASD traits (but not bad enough to be diagnosed in the current nhs climate). Middle has suspected ADD. Have started initial investigations.

Youngest started hitting and kicking me after being told no to something and was told to go to his room. Wouldn’t go so I carried him up there. Kept trying to run out, and was still kicking and punching me so I was trying to hold him away/squash him on the floor. Not good. This carried on for about forty minutes at a guess. Then he’s screaming that he’s starving (it’s 11.40 and he’s had breakfast and a snack). I try and make him lunch but he screams he doesn’t want me to. I leave the stuff (buttered wrap, ham and cucumber) on the table. He bangs it all about and screams some more. He then breaks the plate by accident, cries and says sorry, calms down and then eats and is ok.

Oldest was then winding youngest up to make him hit her, and making a screechy monkey noise that she knows I cannot bear. Oldest and middle were screeching at youngest making fun of him, youngest was then running into their rooms, older try and drag him out, ends up in another fight.

Middle had a half hour patch of being awful. Can’t remember what he was doing, but he lost his iPad time.

There were a good few hours in total of them running around being awful, being mean and fighting. As soon as one calms down another starts up.

We do have a garden, try and do Joe Wicks most days and they go for a long morning walk.

I gave up on work yesterday. We did some Easter egg painting and I have other activities planned, but middle one often wrecks things like that.

Anyone got any practical tips?

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mnahmnah · 10/04/2020 08:56

This sounds exactly like mine, but they’re 8 and 3. The eldest does the making annoying noises thing, which drives me insane. Right now I’m trying have my cup of tea, while they jump around the sofa and throw cushions. Like every morning. Constantly wind each other up. Demanding snacks. So I really empathise!

To be honest they only behave when outside, when we all sit together and do something or we split them up and take one each. The eldest likes to ‘teach’ the youngest too.

GreyishDays · 10/04/2020 09:53

Thanks mnahmnah (too doo doo dah dah).

That’s a good point about getting a bigger to teach a smaller.
Good to know it’s not just us.

Sorry about all the detail, just thought I’d include in case there’s any practical solutions that jump out.

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mnahmnah · 10/04/2020 10:41

Glad you got my username Grin

No problem. We’re all finding it tough to some extent! Trying to do our own work, teach our own children, occupy them when they want to be free and to see friends. Exhausting.

mnahmnah · 10/04/2020 10:43

And I can now hear DH in the kitchen repeatedly saying ‘stop it the pair of you!’, ‘leave him alone!’, ‘stop being mean/annoying/so loud’ etc

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