He won't f***in stay in!!!!

[Phipps91]

I posted before about my ex partner still socialising but now I feel like he's going to far.

He's class as a key worker (he works for a water company) and I take my hat off to everyone that is keeping our country going!! But what I have a problem with is he won't stay at home!!!! He goes home. Gets ready and then goes to meet his new girlfriend and stay at her house. Our little boy is my number one priority and I just feel like I'm not keeping him safe! I'm probably going to far because I suffer bad with anxiety. I just don't know if I'm in the wrong by saying he should be at home and this is an unessential journey?? I just need some advice please?? Can I say that our little boy needs to stay with me? Am
I being unreasonable??
If I tell him he shouldn't be doing it he just tells me I'm over reacting. What can I do? Do I tell his work? He will always make me feel about 3ft tall and I've got no argument. I just want to know what I can do?? Please help???

My kids are not seeing their dad, to begin with it was because he was still working (not a key worker) but he has now moved in with his eldest son and several others, he would have been taking my DD’s to a house with several people in it who were not isolating. Luckily he didn’t argue with my decision and agreed they were safer to stay in one place.

I think it’s fair to stop contact unless he stops going out mixing with people other than work.

Will you women please stop using "bad anxiety" to describe the rationale behind your feelings for absolutely everything!!! It's really bloody tedious.
You don't have bad anxiety - you have recognised a very real danger and want to act on it.
Stop hiding behind behind anxiety as every other person seems to do on here and go and tell your ex straight in the face he isn't seeing his son as long as he continues to put him in danger.
Job done.

I still don’t understand what your ex is doing wrong. Yes he’s a key worker , yes he stays at his girlfriend - therefore a household. You’ve given us no evidence that they are breaching the guidelines by going out and socialising with other people unnecessarily.

I think the ex's GF and ex's father both live elsewhere, so that is three separate households all mixing.

User the guidelines state that you are not allowed to switch/mix households, so by going to stay at his girlfriends and then returning home (where he has his son) is going against the guidelines. He’s only been with her for a couple months, he needs to put his sons needs above his new GF? Many of us are unable to see partners because we live in different households. I was dating someone before lockdown, I can’t go and stay with him, he can’t come and stay here (I wouldn’t want him too), I need to stay home and protect me and my children and protect others.

Thanks guys.

It's not even three households mixing its 4. His dad turns up when he pleases and his wife is also a key worker.

As for the anxiety side, maybe it's easier said than done for some people to be so straight with there ex's but as I've stated before he will make me feel like the bad guy and that I haven't got a leg to stand on!

As for the anxiety side, maybe it's easier said than done for some people to be so straight with there ex's but as I've stated before he will make me feel like the bad guy and that I haven't got a leg to stand on!

then more fool you.. because this is about your Child's health in a global crisis ... not your power struggle with your dick on an ex... So tell him NO.. and let him pursue you through court....