Party end of August, send invites out or cancel?

[organisedmother]

I know this is not important with what’s going on in the world right now, I just need some guidance, my 30th birthday is end of August and having a large party in central London, I need to send invites out soon so people can organise childcare, hotels etc, so my dilemma do I cancel and be 29 another year and celebrate next year or do I hold off as it could be the party we all need after months of isolation? WWYD?

Not going to happen. It'll be 2021 before travel is allowed I'd say.

@Bearbehind most of my friends have know their was a party and helped me plan it, my husband wanted to invite his friends witch I need to send invites out for.

Hello, Also 30 this year end of August 😁

Don't want to jump on your like others have, I personally would cancel and re book for next August. Stay 29 for another year.. I will be 😬😬

OP, please understand than no one outside of your very immediate family is going to be concerned about your 30th birthday which is in 4 months

Please just let it be for now unless you want them to think pretty badly of you

It’s a shit situation but people have big birthdays right now and can’t celebrate

And a lot of people have much bigger worries than that - get some perspective

I have no clue what your problem is. You asked should you send out invitations, then on being told it's far too soon; announce that actually, all your friends have already been invited and have booked hotels...
🤪

I think she means she has sent the save the dates previously, but soon she would be sending the next round of information and logistics.

@LoisMME thanks 😊 I agree looks like its Marks and Sparks dine in meals for us 😂🍷

@LHReturns yes exactly correct thank you, I just feel bad to contact the people that did know saying it’s cancelled when some people have booked hotels, and wanted to make sure I wasn’t over reacting but, here’s to 29 🥂

@Bearbehind thank you for letting me know that none of my friends will care and only coronavirus matters, it was helpful.

thank you for letting me know that none of my friends will care and only coronavirus matters, it was helpful.

OP - you need a massive reality check

I didn’t say they didn’t care

I said right now they won’t be concerned about your birthday which is in 4 months

Have you read any of the other threads in this section about people’s immediate problems?

thank you for letting me know that none of my friends will care and only coronavirus matters, it was helpful

At the moment I wouldn't give a shit about someone's 30th birthday in August. If they sent an invite I'd think they were mad, arrogant or had no concept of judging the mood.

OP
Celebrate your “ twentyeleventh” instead.
Hopefully times will be brighter then.

Just send the invited it’s ages away for gods sake - might be fine - if not then you can cancel it later

People on here are so doom and gloom !

Of course people would care - not everyone is at home in a constant state of depression making not future plans ever again! Fucking hell! My mate just had to move her wedding from April to September - everyone has accepted new invite and sure if it has to get moved again it gets moved? It’s nice to have stuff to look forward to?

Enjoy your party op x

I love parties, organising and attending. I send out invites well in advance. But honestly right now if anyone sent me an invite I would not even bother opening it as everything is so uncertain and stressful. Any parties whether family, friends or kids would be last thing on my radar. If I was you I would either wait to see how things settle or delay for a year.

To be honest if someone sent me an invite for a party in August I would be really excited I have something to look forward too. I really miss socialising.

Some people are really doom and gloom.

I turn 30 this year too OP and so do a lot of my friends. We're all really looking forward to it, even if we can't celebrate with each other in person. One of my friend's birthdays is this Sunday and we're all going online to have a virtual party for him. Of course we all give a shit about each other, that's what friends do. Even if you've got other stuff going on!

Some people want stuff to look forward to. I know I do. I refuse to live in an air of negativity and I am certainly making plans for stuff to do when it is possible again.

There is a whole Mumsnet anti-‘thinking your birthday means anything’ attitude at the best of times. A point of view that doesn’t match up to real life if you ask me.

I really hope you get to have your party OP enjoy and Happy Birthday 🥳 x

Thanks everyone! I’m not needing a reality check and not up my own arse or any other horrible things people say, my husband is a key worker I’m very aware of what is going on, the world still turns, babies are born, weddings will be thrown and birthday celebrated in the future. I’m aware it’s months away and the virus will be on everyone’s mind now and also in 4 months time. I hope your celebrate this year whatever age ❤️ Stay safe

It may well be possible by August, but I would reassess in a few months. 4 months notice for a party is too early!
Personally I believe things will return to some sort of normality much sooner than a lot of people think.

OP, I would set up a FB event, and just say this is the deal...."party is planned for this date, don't book anything, but I'll keep updating when I can". That way you can let everyone know in one go what's happening.

Enjoy your birthday! My landmark birthday is June and I've not lost all hope yet.

Just send them out. Hotels are cancellable and people might like the chance to make even tentative plans. I have bookings for September and October but can cancel any time.

I'm optimistic and I think at the end of August you may be ok. I also think people would like the idea of looking forward to something. I've read all these replies with interest as it's my mother's 90th in mid August - it might be a bit too optimistic to think she can be 89 for another year, although she's healthy and active so hopefully so. Happy 30th for August anyway!

I don’t disagree that people need something to look forward to, I just think that this situation is a bit odd

The OP has said all her friends already know when it is and have enough details that some have already booked hotels, so if they want to look forward to it they can and they don’t need any more info at this stage

The invites are for her DH’s friends who are unlikely to have their friend’s wife’s 30th in 4 months at the top of their ‘things to look forward to’

Hopefully one good thing about this situation will be people starting to appreciate the simple pleasures a bit more and not need ‘things to look forward to’ to be fancy pants weekends away

Aside from anything else, when did it become a thing to have birthday parties in venues where most of the guests need a hotel anyway?

Are lots of people really going to prioritise this kind of thing, certainly in the short term, in the uncertain world we’re going to have after all this?

I'm still expecting to attend a wedding in August, which I think will be fine. I just don't think people will want to spend money on hotels/travel to be honest, OP.