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Should I or Shouldn’t I?

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Ilovemypantry · 09/04/2020 09:10

I live in a small close of 7 houses, detached but still quite close together. As neighbours we are very friendly and look out for one another, always help each other when needed.
One of my neighbour’s DH has had a lot of health problems over the past few months, in and out of hospital and now he is back in with suspected Coronavirus (waiting to be confirmed).
This is my dilemma....for the past couple of days this
neighbour and her next door neighbour have been meeting up in the afternoon for a cup of tea and a chat on her drive. They sit 2 metres apart and are out there for a couple of hours. Yesterday she messaged me asking if I wanted to join them for a cuppa. My DH is shielding because of health reasons and neither of us have been out for a few weeks, only in the garden. Our DD lives at home and she has been getting the shopping once a week.
My gut feeling is telling me that I shouldn’t risk going over to join them for a cuppa on the drive as if neighbour’s DH has got the virus, she could very well have it now too and even sitting 2metres apart i think is still risky.
Yesterday I made an excuse not to, but she has messaged me again this morning inviting me to join them this afternoon. I feel bad as she is living on her own now her DH is in hospital, she is so worried and I feel I should be supporting her but don’t feel comfortable taking that risk.
I think this s going to be a regular daily thing for them now and I can’t keep making excuses not to join them, should I just say that I’m not comfortable with it? We message each other most days so are in contact that way.

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justanotherneighinparadise · 09/04/2020 09:12

Why not just say that? Your DH is on the shielded list and you’re being extra cautious. Sounds reasonable to me!

dontdisturbmenow · 09/04/2020 09:12

Stick to what makes you feel comfortable. If they don't respect it and judge you, they are not worthy of your friendship.

Poetryinaction · 09/04/2020 09:23

No one will judge you. But I do think it would be safe to have a cuppa more than 2m apart from someone.

Potentialmadcatlady · 09/04/2020 09:34

My neighbours do the same. We are shielding. I no longer go out to them, not even to sit a few metres away. One of the ladies is also supposed to be shielding but is having regular visitors. I just can’t take the risk. When I was messaged to come join them I said sadly I cannot join you anymore because we are shielding but I look forward to a lovely afternoon tea when we come out the other side of this..

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