Ex travelling to see kids

[Ibeingbornawomananddistressed]

My XH lives at the other end of the country with his second wife. He usually travels up to see kids one or two weekends a month and stays with his family who live nearby. He was supposed to come up for a week of Easter holidays, taking kids to a holiday home, but the holiday home site is closed due to Coronavirus so that was cancelled.

To be honest, given government re travel, and the fact that he doesn't have a nearby home of his own, I was not expecting him to see kids until lockdown restrictions end.

However, this morning I have had notifications pop up of flights XH has booked to come up at weekend as his PA has added to shared calendar... no word from him of course, no discussion as to whether that is ok.... I’m not convinced it IS ok in current climate... I’ve no idea what level of social distancing he and his wife have practiced, he’s then got to get to one airport, go through airport, get on plane, get through second airport and pick up hire car before he gets to us... massive exposure.... not to mention where will he be staying. At best he’s also risking exposing his DS & BIL if he stays with them...at worst his parents (in their 70s).... not to mention he himself has an underlying health conditions that puts him in the same group as over 70s for social distancing!

I'm aware the government has said it's ok for children of divorced parents to travel between their homes, but this is not that, is it?

I want to tell him no... Can I? Should I?

I am not a lawyer but could you not get legal advice? Can you stop him seeing the children if he poses a danger? He is also breaking Govt advice. I would speak to your solicitor and see what can be done.

I would have thought a FaceTime conversation on the days he would have seen them would maintain some form of contact given that these are exceptional times? Worth double checking that he is intending to do this before spending money on a solicitor.

Yikes that sounds like a lot of travel. Sounds like you need to have a proper chat with him about where they would stay with them.

But for the record, she's his wife, no need to specify second.

If I were in your situation, I would message him to explain why he would not be collecting the children from me for Easter. What is it he is struggling to get his head around. It is upsetting for him that he cannot see his children for the foreseeable future but he has to put his children and elderly family first.

These are unprecedented times and if he disagrees and still wants to spread infection collect the children, it would take up a lot of court time and would still not be happening.

Thanks all... have messaged him and thankfully he is fully onboard and was just rescheduling cancelled flights which he will continue to "roll forward" until restrictions are lifted.... phew!

Thank goodness for sanity prevailing!