Can someone tell me its going to be ok

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This bloody virus!! 2 years ago i got his with depression & anxiety (overworked, lack of support with DC, i was in denial and let it fester. 12 months later i was sat crying to my GP. Faet forward another 12 months, I have stopped taking antidepressants, stopped smoking, using self help all going well. 2 weeks in to lockdown i can feel my mental health slipping away. WFH full time with 3 young DC, DH keyworker so not here to help much. My anxiety is spiraling out of control, i have no structure or routine which was holding me together. I feel like my life is falling apart. The only thing i am good at is my job and i cant even do that in peace. I overeat+++ - i have gained so much weight with the anti depressants and stopping smoking so i hate myself.

Can someone tell me its going to be ok, even if its not. False hope is better than no hope.

It definitely will be OK! It’s going to take a while but it will eventually work out.

Someone else will be along with more practical suggestions but I can assure you that it’s all going to be all right

Of course it’ll be ok! How old are your children? (So we can help with practical suggestions).

Yes, it will be ok. We are going to hear lots of stressful stuff but it will end and a normality will return .

Can you ask to go back onto your medication? It is a very anxiety and despair inducing time and that is a perfectly reasonable request as you are already experiencing symptoms.

Children will go back to school, shops will open, businesses will pick up. The government will have to put in a huge amount of support and no doubt we'll be unpicking blame for all if this for years but life will go on.

OP

Not everyone is going to die from this.
Those that catch it and survive are immune from it so can resume normal life in time.
Humans have been subject to these event innumerable times. We survive.

Eventually the virus will die out because there are no new "victims". It is a failed parasite (a successful parasite does not kill the host)

It will be OK. It might take a bit of time, but it will be OK. And so will you

don’t forget that scientist all over the world are not only working on a vaccine, but also medication which can help people who get the virus, fight against it. So hopefully, soon, we will have medication which will be a great help.

It's going to be fine. Noom (it's an app) is excellent for weight loss and grounding you in a moment.

Go back on ADs I know a few who have xxx

You'll get through this OP.

But it does sound like you need to work on better coping mechanisms in your life beyond throwing yourself into work and trying to control everything through routine. Just let somethings slide. If you put on weight, so what? It's not permanent. If the kids are parked in front of the telly, so what? It's not every day. If you can't get any work done, never mind, there's always tomorrow.

Take one day at a time and focus on what works best for you all that day. Go back to the newborn stage. Getting everyone fed and dressed is a good day!!

Its going to be okay. Life will return to normal. I think for most people, certainly for me, worse things have happened than this. Take care of yourself.

It's going to be fine eventually OP! It won't last forever. We'll find a vaccine, there will be medication available. Scientists are working furiously on this. It'll take time but we'll get there.

Well done giving up the smoking.Best possible thing you could have done for yourself and your family. I came off anti ds a couple of months ago and like you I have felt the anxiety creeping back a bit which is no surprise really under the circumstances. I am just trying to stick with the techniques I have been doing - mindfulness and a bit of CBT kind of thing. You can do this OP..You have clearly been doing very positively and so you must have a well of self resilience. You will be ok.

Go back on ADs I know a few who have

I agree with this. I was going to come off mine just before all this started but decided now, was not the right time to do it.

Ok for who?

Ok for you and your partner's physical health? Almost certainly.
Ok for your kids physical health? Certainly.
Ok for your finances short term? Appears so from your post.

It is kind of a shitty situation day to day though. Hard to find fun/relaxation/distraction. So try and find those things if you can and ring gp re restarting antidepressants in any case.

It’s going to be fine. Don’t think ahead and just focus on today. This will pass, everything does. Honestly everything will be ok in the end.

DC's are 6, 4 & 2. Organisation is key to my life and I want perfection (i used to be so laid back but the older ive got the more uptight / anxious 8 have got around this. My job is very important - management keyworker so wfh but very difficult to do with the DC here. Feels like the house is chaos with very little school work being done.

I've summarised this from your replies and will try to put it in to action daily

• dont think ahead, just get through today
• put some time for fun / relaxation / distraction into each day
• remind myself i have a well of self resilience
• daily mindfullness (google headspace)
• there's always tomorrow
• life will return to normal

Although ADs helped me when i was really low, i did experience side effects. Im not totally against going back on them but if i can help myself from having a full blown relapse i'd rather do that.