Dreading dad's funeral under the Corona guidelines

[KavvLar]

Just had through the list of instructions.

Max ten people. Meet at the crematorium, wait in car until the appointed time. Observe social distancing at all times, no embracing, no touching the coffin, no gathering or loitering, leave immediately after.

I know all this is in accordance with the guidelines and I'm not finding fault with the funeral directors, they are as confused as we are.

It just seems like one of the saddest life situations to have to simply 'suck it up' and crack on without human comfort responses.

Has anyone else had this, if so my condolences, but I'm dreading it and hoping it won't be as cold as it sounds.

I'm so sorry Kavlaar. This is a very difficult situation, and one of my close friends is also going through it, having suddenly lost her Dad.
I can completely understand why you feel so sad about it, and send you lots of sympathy.

I think if I were in the situation, I might consider planning a wake/ celebration of some sort for later in the year as a way of making up for the lack of a full funeral, but I appreciate this wouldn't be right for everyone.

Sorry to hear this. I’m in a similar boat. Mum passed last week. I want to be left alone, I really don’t want people asking how I am etc because the whole thing is surreal, I’ve not even seen her due to all the restrictions and I know myself and it will be 5-6 months from now where it really hits, once she is buried, the flat given back etc, but people are thinking I don’t give a toss. No it’s my coping mechanism .

I’m already in battles with sisters as one is insisting on waiting until things are back to normal so we can have everyone there, plus idiot friends and family are agreeing. It’s as if they are not reading the papers or listening to the news and I can’t say I’m keen on keeping my mum on ice /unable to have closure for minimum 3 months just because people who aren’t related what to attend her funeral. It was only when the undertaker told me about the social distancing etc I thought geez that’s rough, but what can we do, some counties aren’t even allowing a small gathering like the uk so I’m trying to find the positive in all this

I'm sorry for your loss , both of you. Clearly decision making must be immediate family only. Anyone could surely see that.

Thanks @opalescent and @onlinelinda.

@hoxtonbabe I'm so sorry about your mum. Our crematorium has an online streaming facility which everyone other than immediate family will use, so maybe that could provide a middle ground for your situation.

I don't mean to wallow. I know people are in worse situations.

I'm just dreading having to suddenly be OK with this massive shift in procedure and grief. I'll be in the same room as my mum but won't be able to comfort her. I get it. I just don't relish the thought.

You will one day soon @KavvLar . 🌈

Sorry for your loss op.

My DF recently went to “end of life care”, we live 200 miles away & have 2 in the house who are shielding, I currently cannot see us even getting to the funeral. It’s just not going to happen & to be honest I’m ok with that, because in my mind I’m protecting my children & I doubt DF would have wanted it any other way

I just read about that poor young boy who passed away from CV on Monday and his family couldn't attend the funeral as they were self isolating.

Heart breaking stuff happening everywhere. @WeArnottamused my thoughts are with you all.