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Just so I’m clear: no visiting family even if 2 metres away?

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Marypoppins19 · 04/04/2020 15:53

I’m right yes?

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GreyishDays · 04/04/2020 16:08

You can care for people.

HildegardeCrowe · 04/04/2020 16:14

So it’s ok to stop and talk to numerous people when you’re out and about as long as they’re 2m but you can’t deliver a bunch of flowers to your 89 year old mum on her birthday?? I for one am going to use my common sense. Rebellion is sure to brew if lockdown isn’t relaxed.

Belindabelle · 04/04/2020 16:15

Apparently the rules don't apply to my husbands cousin or his brother.

They have both been visiting MIL regularly since this all started.

DH has been dropping off food at the doorstep and I have been following the rules and have not been near. I am now being made out to be uncaring for not visiting her.

isabellerossignol · 04/04/2020 16:19

You can't just visit for the sake of visiting. But if someone needs help because they can't live independently without it, then you can do that.

As a family we are still having to 'visit' our mother (although keeping to the bare minimum) because she isn't capable of certain things, such as cleaning the kitchen or toilet, or doing laundry. We have to balance the risk of coronavirus with the risk of food poisoning or whatever.

Distressingtimes · 04/04/2020 16:19

Send her this

Just so I’m clear: no visiting family even if 2 metres away?

LolaSmiles · 04/04/2020 16:24

So it’s ok to stop and talk to numerous people when you’re out and about as long as they’re 2m
You're only meant to be out and about with people from your household.
2m is a guideline for when you're interacting for things such as passing people, in shops, not 'stand about and have a chat for a while as long as you're 2m'.
but you can’t deliver a bunch of flowers to your 89 year old mum on her birthday??
Of course you can DELIVER flowers, but you can't go round to visit.

I for one am going to use my common sense.
Often this translates to "I'm going to decide my situation makes me the exception so I'm going to ignore the rules".

Rebellion is sure to brew if lockdown isn’t relaxed
Most people are following the rules.
There's a large minority of selfish idiots who think the rules don't apply to them.
If people refuse to follow some simple instructions then the restrictions will become tighter.

As someone on today's briefing has said "this is a bit of a broken record but follow social distancing, stay at home".

wanderings · 04/04/2020 16:29

I knew MN would be awash with threads like this today. It did not disappoint!

toomanypillows · 04/04/2020 16:30

I've been dropping shopping off to my parents' house, leaving it on the doorstep and then standing at the bottom of their drive when they come out to pick it up, and have a quick chat with them.
Also, my sister happened to drive past me the other day (when I was walking my dog and she was on her way back from work) so she pulled her car in across the road from me and we also had a quick chat.

I wouldn't intentionally go to do either of those things (except drop the shopping off, of course) but whilst I am there keeping my distance, I think I'm being risk averse and reasonable.

0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h · 04/04/2020 16:31

Rebellion is sure to brew

Clearly you hope it will. But others might be brighter and more responsible. That's what I'm hoping.

HistoryHeroes · 04/04/2020 16:32

Yes even if your mum lives next door.

C8H10N4O2 · 04/04/2020 16:33

Oh and exercise once a day!

And for caring responsibilities.

rc22 · 04/04/2020 16:46

I chat to my parents briefly from the other end of the garden when I drop their shopping but I don't go especially to see them and wouldn't stay and sit in the garden.

neveradullmoment99 · 04/04/2020 16:53

Well my mum had a radiator leaking so there are some emergencies. He had to go down and fix it but she stayed in the sitting room while he went to sort it. Then he left.
Generally we havent been down but we had no choice.

Wehttam · 04/04/2020 16:53

I read elsewhere the analogy of during the Second World War, the blackout. If you are slightly breaking the rules you are essentially opening your curtains during blackout.

We all know what the could mean right? 💣

Stay home please 🙏🏻

HollowTalk · 04/04/2020 16:56

How come the two Siddiqui brothers on Gogglebox were in the same house the other night?

rc22 · 04/04/2020 17:00

@HollowTalk I think they must have chosen to lockdown together so as to be able to continue with the show. As must Jenny and Lee as they don't ordinarily live together in the caravan!

Soph7777 · 04/04/2020 17:02

Oh ffs people are being ott. What if it was one of your family at the supermarket you'd be 2m away. There's nothing wrong with sitting in the garden or from a window

Ilovemypantry · 04/04/2020 17:03

@HollowTalk
I don’t watch the programme, but perhaps they are living in the same house atm?

HollowTalk · 04/04/2020 17:04

I know one of them is married. They were sitting six feet apart, which you wouldn't have to do if you lived together.

Wordofwarning · 04/04/2020 17:05

i dropped off some shopping with my 78 yr old mum today and stayed for a drink (i brought myself and took home) sat in her garden further than 2 metres away for about 10 minutes. Put together a shopping list and checked everything was ok with gas (external calor supply).

shoot me

Shes on her own and nearest neighbour is 2 miles away. She’s also recently widowed. There’s a balance seeing someone 1-2 times per week with shopping/ medication and her not seeing another person and the damage that would cause. She’s only seen me for the last month, oh and deliveries online? yeah right - 10 days and counting to try and get a slot....

Doyoumind · 04/04/2020 17:07

I think dropping off food or passing by during your daily exercise and talking from the end of the garden is the only way this is legitimate. If you are travelling there to see them and going into the house or into the garden even staying 2m apart it isn't safe and isn't allowed.

YinuCeatleAyru · 04/04/2020 17:10

if your family member needs family support to live, eg when my grandmother-in-law was still alive she needed twice daily visits from one or other son or daughter (they had a rota) - that can continue. but if your relative is perfectly capable of looking after themself and wouldn't be in danger being left alone, then nope.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 04/04/2020 17:16

I have a visitor calling later today with some bread for me. He’s a wonderful young friend of one of my boys and text me to ask if I need anything. Bread may not be classed as essential to some, but my autistic and vulnerable child will be over the moon when she sees it and since there are only the two of us at home, I can’t go out.

He’ll leave it on my doorstep, stay way back and we’ll chat for a few minutes. No doubt I’ll be judged harshly by the assholes next door. 🤷‍♀️

northernlittledonkey · 04/04/2020 17:31

Common sense needs to prevail surely, my Mums just called. She doesn’t want me to go to hers tomorrow to drop off food as it’s not necessary & she’s worried about cross infection. She said she’ll just go to the shops instead....

CallmeAngelina · 04/04/2020 17:31

So, by complete coincidence yesterday, we saw our best friends whilst out on a walk. We paused (2+ metres away) and had a chat for around 5 minutes and then went on our way in different directions.
I presume that was OK? Or should we have looked the other way and scurried past?

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